(Closed) What should we do…?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Which option is best and most fair?
    Compromise. Go to your extended family's event, stay a while, then go to FI's family event. : (31 votes)
    72 %
    Go to your family's event only, since you commited to that first. It would be rude to leave early. : (9 votes)
    21 %
    Go to FI's family event, and not go to your family's event. : (1 votes)
    2 %
    Other - please explain. : (2 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Can you go to your family’s on Saturday, stay the night, and then leave at some point to go to your fiance’s family’s?  

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @wbg21:  But why couldn’t you then stay until the extendeds come, remain for a bit, and then leave?  

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @wbg21:  That would be a headache…I would come up with a lame excuse like my tires are bald and stay home this year…

    Seriously though. My family and his family have gotten into the habit of planning events on different days so this year its not so much an issue. We are doing Christmas Eve at my moms and Christmas with his family. We had Thanksgiving at my moms and did dinner with his parents another night. Next year, it will be different. Before that we had to split it up and my mom was getting pissed because she wants the most time…..and yeah, its annoying. I think your families need to be a bit more understanding in this case, that is just so stressful!

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    We just stay home; fighting over which family is just too much headache.  But then, we’re loners anyway. 🙂

    Post # 10
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @wbg21:  Then I think staying home this year would be entirely acceptable and I wouldn’t judge you for it at all 😉

    Post # 12
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @wbg21:  I feel you, last year we had to spend 12 hours in a car over 2 days to get to 2 seperate Christmas’s, and that was missing one.  Because neither of us are keen on compramising between one family or the other, or want to do the anti-social thing and stay home, we do it.  And avoid travel for a few weeks afterwards.  

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Is it possible to go to your FI’s family on Friday night, spend 2 nights with his folks, maximize the time with his extended family, then leave the party a little earlier on Sunday and make it to your Aunt’s and Uncle’s for the majority of that party? It’s still not perfect since you’d miss most of your FI’s family party on Sunday plus probably still leave your mother mad, but you’d accomplish the main point of meeting and spending time with your FI’s extended family.

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Probably not what you want to do, but it is okay to spend this day apart and then spend Christmas day together as a couple. 

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Oh gah. That stinks about 8hrs in the car on one day. Which party is too late to change to Saturday? I read it in your post to mean your FI’s family party. Can your extended fam change the party to Saturday? Seems like people are just driving in anyway.

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