(Closed) What should we do??? 8[

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Personally, I would find a venue where I could afford the entire guest list I wanted (and I did, too!). But, really, that’s a judgment call only you can make. You have to do what you have to do, and I’m sure the people truly close to you will understand the tough decisions that you’re about to have to make. Good luck!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@ms. lovie bunny:  You seem like you have a good attitude about the whole thing. I’m sure the people you have to leave out will understand, especially when they hear why you’ve had to downsize. You have to do what’s best for you & your FH!!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

You could ‘cancel/postpone’ your wedding – Fairly sure there’d be some nice verses or wording you could use as it has definitely been done before. Then when you go to re-book, just don’t re-invite the people you don’t want there. I changed my venue after the first invites went out. I just sent everyone a letter explaining that we’d ‘upgraded’ to a bigger place with a dancefloor. I also invited more people so they got a slightly different worded letter, not making reference to the ‘upgrade’. It would be a bit harder to downgrade to a smaller venue and cut people rather than upgrade to bigger and invite more like I did, but it definitely can be done.

I have a friend that planned a big wedding and then decided it wasn’t for her and planned something much smaller but also pushed the date back. I believe she just sent out a letter explaining that their wedding had been ‘postponed’ or cancelled. Then a few months later they had a really intimate ceremony by the lake.

I’m sure people will understand and appreciate your decision. It’s your wedding day and it has to be what you guys really want. As long as it’s worded OK and you explain yourselves so they don’t go thinking “OMG the wedding is off, the relationship is falling apart”. If you explain that you’re still in love and still want to get married but would like to do things differently, people will get that.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

Hard situation. Good luck with this.

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