Post # 17
We invited 230 and only 150 came!! The reason is that everyone had to travel at least an hour with 2/3 being an airplane ride away. my parents invited a lot of friends that don’t know me (they moved to another state after I finished high school) and very few of those people came. I was surprised at the turnout but very happy with our final number (our venue held 200 so I was nervous inviting 230!)
Post # 18
@GetMarried — we’re at 18 no’s and 56 yes’s with 2 weeks left to respond. All of our in-town guests have responded already (they’re coming), so the majority that’s left is coming from out of town. Based on my numbers (definitely nothing definitive), I’m assuming 30% won’t show, and if it’s higher, YAY! (we SO over-invited!)
Post # 19
I have not calculated out our percentages yet (don’t have all of our responses…even though we’re past the date), but the economy has definitely prevented a lot of people from coming. Mostly people that would have to fly.
Post # 20
i’m having an in-town wedding pretty much next to our hometown and the majority of the guests invited are from the area (drive time would be like 10-15 mins). The out of towners we’ve invited would be friends who have moved away from the area but have family still so a place to stay and our respective extended families who have already confirmed plans to come. I have an invite list of 200 and am hoping for 175 guests. Should I be scaling down my invite list? I’m a little scared we’re going to get yes’ from almost everyone!!
Post # 21
seems like a tricky science…i’m going to stick with the 65% bc i believe that travel costs are going to be an issue with many of my Out of Town guest.
the local ppl will kind of a gamble
Post # 22
This is such a great question! I just figured out my headcount after confirming with invitees that didn’t mail in the RSVPs.
Final Count: 144 Invited 122 Guests
Post # 23
can’t wait to find out what our numbers are. we’re having a very small wedding – inviting 63 guests for a space that will hold 55. we know several elderly relatives will not be able to make it, but have our fingers crossed for the rest. the vast majority of invites are family members – a few who said they weren’t able to make it initially are now planning on it and the invites haven’t even gone out yet!
Post # 24
I am stressed over this too. My mother claims that 50% is the average response these days and she is in charge of the pocket book. (I am still working out how best to handle her) I think she is saying this so she can invite a ton of her friends and feel like she is slighting anyone. So far, some of the people that she thought would not come at all are booking a flight and making it into a mini vacation! These are people she has not seen in over a decade but once held me as a baby. And all but 8 people invited are 2 plane flights away! Anyways…enough venting, I am trying to think about it like this– All of these people want to be there to support us. And that is not a bad thing.
Post # 25
We made a spreadsheet of all of our guests and their individual liklihood (0-100%) of attending. You probably have a good hunch as to whether Uncle Bob will make the trek or if your college roomate can find a sitter for her 6 kids.
With our calculation, we’re expecting about an 80% acceptance rate. Most of the declines so far have been courtesy invites for people we didn’t expect to come.
Post # 26
Our "mostly" final numbers are in:
17 no response
So that is about 50% not showing up! I have a lot of family on the East Coast (our wedding is in So Cal), and my fh’s father’s side of the family is in India (about 20 of the invited).
Post # 27
I thought I would revive this board. Any new feedback on % of guests showing up? We are about to send our invites out in a few weeks so I’m curious if people are seeing a trend of "No’s" with the economy the way it is today 🙁
Post # 28
Having an expensive destination wedding, I’m considering we’ll probably see at least 30% no’s…
Post # 29
Ours was travel for most guest (ie airplane travel or 2 day drive travel). We ended up with a 60% show rate.
Post # 30
I’m hoping for a lot of no’s! We invited 454 and I’m hoping 300 or less actually attend. We just got our first RSVPs back and we’re 50/50 at this point!