(Closed) What size carat would you say my e ring is?

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Post # 16
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Buzzing bee

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Pineapple209:  It’s tricky if your hubby got pissed off about it. Can you maybe ask him to go along with you to help pick a new ring? Go in, tell the jeweller to show you rings in the carat range you are after, pick three you would be happy to wear and then let him make the final decision. He might feel better about it that way. His ego is probably a little bruised right now and he’s probably upset because he picked it with the best intentions and would have thought you’d love it too. I think it will ease the blow if he’s involved with the decision and he would have still picked it in the end so it’s a win/win. =)

Plus if you can afford to upgrade but still keep this too then you could wear it as a RHR so it’s still with you all the time. Are you planning on holding onto it?

Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: A very pretty church.

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Pineapple209: I think it looks lovely on you, and I honestly wouldn’t switch it (for less than half what you paid?!) for less than .6. My reason, almost no one (including the rude people you have been getting comments from) will be able to tell the difference between .33 and .45 (unless they were side by side, depends how it faces up too!) so why not wait a while and save up for a size you think you will really be happy with longterm (and shut up your frenemies) if that’s what you want. Another option would be to hit Berricle and try out some stone sizes, small high quality CZ are very hard to spot and you can see if changing size would really make the difference for you, without parting with your precious.

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: A very pretty church.

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Pineapple209:  Also, have you considered Moissanite? 

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014 - Lizard Island, Australia

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Pineapple209:  I understand. I really didn’t like my first engagement ring and I felt bad telling my husband (fiancé at the time). I think he was a bit upset but he said he definitely wanted me to have something that I love and when we could afford it we changed my ring. I would like to change the setting again now and husband just laughs and rolls his eyes. So I know how you feel about being unhappy. You know there are more important things in the world but it niggles at you. 

 

Mabye you could save up to buy yourself one. There are lots of options maybe second hand? I agree with a previous poster that upgrading to a 0.45 probably won’t give you much of a difference. It’s important to look at the measurements of diamonds as you could easily get a 0.45 that faces up exactly the same as you have now. It’s all about the cut. Don’t feel guilty for how you feel (as long as you aren’t a cow about it). We all long for different things, for some reason wanting a bigger diamond attracts judgement sometimes but it’s really no different to wanting anything else in my opinion as long as your attitude about it is good. I’m probably not much help! 

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Buzzing bee

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Pineapple209:  To go from 1/3 ct. to 4.5 or .5 cts is going to be so negligible that you are going to barely notice the difference. 

Go to a jeweler and ask to try on .5 ct solitaires and you will see what I mean. 

Rather than losing money on switching the stone out, my advice would be to keep the stone and bling it up (and gain more finger coverage) by having it re-set in a more blingy setting such as a halo. This would be inexpensive to do, since you can keep your gold band, have the jeweler lift the current solitaire basket out, and re-set the diamond in a halo basket and pop it back in. That’s what we did with my .5 carat solitaire and here is how it came out. I still have my original diamond and the original gold band from the solitaire that DH proposed with.

 

 

 

Maybe this would be a way of getting what you want without upsetting your husband. You would be keeping your diamond and keeping your ring, but getting new “prongs” so to speak.

Maybe you could also soften him up by appealing to his practical side. It looks to me like you have more carat  weight in your wedding band than in your solitaire. Tell him that your wedding band is so beautiful and blingy that it competes with and overshadows the beautiful center stone on your solitaire — and that in order to showcase your beautiful solitaire to its best advantage, you want to select a more bold setting (with diamonds) for the center stone.

It looks to me like you also have a gap between your solitaire and your wedding band. Some people like gaps, but if you don’t, your jeweler could solve that problem when he adds the halo — by raising the halo profile so that your wedding band will sit flush. Again, this is something you could point out to your DH that might appeal to his practical side. Instead of hearing “I’m unhappy with the ring you got me and I want to get a new one,” instead he’s hearing “I want to make an adjustment to my current ring and improve on it so that it will look more balanced and sit together more nicely with the wedding band.”

 

I got a big halo (.22 total carat weight) but if that would be too much for you, you could try something more delicate and frosty like this example. Any jeweler can order these little halo “baskets” and pop them into a ring. 

http://www.shaneco.com/Jewelry-Catalog/?O=Site&ST=halo_head&I=100

 

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2003

What 

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BelliniChic said.

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee

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Pineapple209:  I wouldn’t switch it out, as I don’t think the difference would be noticeable

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I would say a 1/2 carat.

Post # 24
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Bumble Beekeeper

I said it in your other thread and I’ll say it again here: I think it’s lovely as-is. 

I agree with PPs that an upgrade to 0.5 might not be noticeable (and therefore might not be worth the extra money/trouble). If you’re going to upgrade the stone, I’d look for a 0.75ish I think. 

Post # 25
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Newbee

It’s a small diamond, but that shouldn’t make you feel bad. I know some people who no diamonds and plain bands and it fits them perfectly. It seems like the size is an issue, so I would upgrade but not to a .45 or even half. That is still tiny and would make you want to upgrade down the road. You would need to go to at least 1.5 carat to make you think you have a big enough diamond. I would suggest Moissianite and preowned to get the best value for your dollar. If you buy a real diamond, a 1 carat could cost you $5,000 or more, depending on the ccc. 

Post # 26
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

As someone who once worked in fine jewelry herself, I’ll tell you now that upgrading to a .5 or even a .6 isn’t going to make a difference when you’re going to a .33. No one I going to notice you’ve done anything to the ring unless you’ve told them, and I don’t think a minute change like that is worth angering the husband for. 

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Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014 - Lizard Island, Australia

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Pineapple209:  how did you feel about it? Did it feel big enough? Do you think you’d get ‘diamond shrinkage syndrome?’ I like the band on it much better

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