Post # 1
I’m curious about what has made you go “NO WAY” to a venue even if it’s just a small thing. For instance, I said no to an otherwise great place in a lovely location because I hated the carpets. I don’t know why, it seems like such a tiny thing, but imagining getting married/having dinner there made me sad and upset when I looked at the carpet. Like it just turned me off somehow. I don’t even insist on perfection, there’s other things I’m willing to sacrifice (the venue I really want to book has a kind of ugly facade but the rest is beautiful and I don’t really care about the facade) but for some reason I was like… “That carpet. Just no.”
Has anyone else vetoed something for a reason that might seem picky or small or weird to others?
Post # 3
I found the most beautiful reception venue and turned it down because the owner was so rude. Turned down another beautiful venue because it is near an airport and you can hear the planes go past.
I can understand you would like everything to be perfect, and imagine if you hate those carpets so much that it’s all you can see when you look at your photos.
Post # 4
If it seemed dirty at all or smelled weird. The smell was a huge one for me. A lot of the venues smelled kind of musty and I couldnt handle it.
Post # 5
One venue we looked at had a great space and even included using the patio…..BUT it was open to the public, meaning that other people could just walk right through into our wedding reception….also the ceremony site was tiny and basically in the parking lot…….
Another venue was an older venue, that was basically a gym with a stage that reminded me of a school gym and it had no outdoor space (ie. patio etc) which was an instant no as well….
oh well hopefully the venue we chose will get back to us so was can finally book it or else its back to the drawing board.
Post # 6
not really small – but odd.
They said we could book the hall for the reception and a smaller room for the ceremony. But if someone else wanted the smaller room and they had a bigger party, they would get it. Even after we booked it. They came right out and told us that they wanted to make the most money possible.
so there was a chance we’d wake up the morning of the wedding with no ceremony space.
Post # 7
RED CARPET! seems like so many have it!
Post # 8
I looked at a venus and they informed us there would be another event that day… and we would share the same bathroom.
Once I found out it was a Bar Mitzvah I immediately vetoed! i couldn’t even imagine what my fiance’s lacrosse buddies would teach the innocent 13 year olds they met in the bathroom!
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center
Yep. Ugly carpets. That was my #1 item for vetos. So glad we ended up with a venue with beautiful hardwood floors. And no distinct color scheme!
Post # 10
We votoed anywhere that wouldn’t let us choose our own caterer. We didn’t feel like we got good impressions from any in-house caterers we spoke to, and we wanted the freedom to choose a company that “earned” our business, not got it by default. We also didn’t like being forced to have a food & beverage minimum.
We also vetoed a really pretty mansion that would have had to split people up into 3 rooms for dinner. We wanted everyone to be together in the same room.
Another GORGEOUS mansion had a separate clubhouse building for dinner (and would be used for the indoor ceremony should the weather not allow it to take place in their beautiful courtyard). The clubhouse was a modern addition and had linoleum floors with drop ceilings. It did not match the feel of the mansion at all, and we didn’t want to be stuck in there for our ceremony, and then later, for dinner!
Lastly, part of the reason we ended up vetoing that gorgeous mansion is because their quote included waaaaay too many things they were knickel and diming us on. Like a $100 charge for “receiving the linens.” So, in addition to paying to rent the linens, we would have had to pay $100 for the mansion to accept the delivery. WTF? See ya!
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Post # 12
@zippylef: Same! Musty smell was a big one for us, too.
Post # 13
- Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo
@russian_doll: I did the same thing! We looked at a beautiful venue, I loved it online, it had great reviews, we went in expecting to book it after we saw it. But the owner was just so stuck-up and rude I just couldn’t imagine having to work with him for the next 9 months. I probably would have stabbed him on my wedding day. The first thing he did was to ask us why we were cool and different enough to get married in his venue. Um…. we saw it online and it appealed to us and we are trying to give you our money, shouldn’t that be good enough for you? Anyway, we found a gorgeous space that we’re really excited about, but I definitely rejected our initial first choice because the guy was a jerk.
Post # 14
If it is too “out-dated”. We looked at a hall that probably hadnt been updated in over 20 years. It still had the old fake vines around the windows o_O
Post # 15
We nixed one because the stage area for our band was too small–you would think as a wedding venue they would have a bigger space for that, I’m sure lots of couples have bands. Another place we nixed partly because of cost and mostly because the girl that was in charge of wedding stuff was dumb as rocks.. it was an awful first impression.. I couldn’t imagine dealing with her for a whole year! Another one I didn’t like the way the ceremony space would be set up, I’d literally being weaving in and out of tables.
Post # 16
I didn’t like the color of the carpets (too loud of a color PLUS it looked too busy) or the ceilings. I felt like I could touch the ceilings and I’m only 5ft! I HAD to take that into consideration because my Future Father-In-Law is 6 ft 7.