(Closed) What strange/unusual happen at British weddings?

posted 8 years ago in United Kingdom
Post # 3
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Busy bee

Interesting question!  I’m not sure if we’ll be able to answer because most of us have never experienced a British wedding before, other than viewing Royal weddings on tv.  I recently was in Ireland and I have a feeling that the weddings I saw would be more familiar to you than they were to us.  I know that in the UK bridesmaids are typically younger girls, but I think this tradition may be changing???  The Irish weddings that I saw at my hotel while on holiday there had bridal parties that looked like an American version.  The thing that was distinctive and unique was the little fancy hats that the guests wore to the wedding!  They were so very elegant!  I have to say that you may be more used to having International tourists watching your wedding parties.  At my hotel, there were so many tourists watching the wedding party arrive that it was amusing because it seemed like the guests felt that this was common to their wedding experiences, but here in my part of America it would be very unusual to have anyone from another place watch a bridal party or wedding reception for any period of time.  I live in Pennsylvania where the cookie table is expected, and driving past an Amish couple courting in a horse and buggy is not totally unusual!  But I agree, we have quite a few traditions here!   

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m Scandinavian but marrying in England and I’ve come across a bunch of things that I personally find a little odd, here are some things I can think of off the top of my head:

-Wedding ‘breakfast’, it’s lunch or dinner but it certainly isn’t breakfast at 5pm!

-Morning suits and top hats, not something I’ve seen anywhere else

-Fruitcake for wedding cake, this is quintessentially English and very common although it doesn’t actually taste that nice

-Only three speeches, I know there are plenty of exceptions to this but there’s an expectation or tradition that speeches are made by the groom, best man and bride’s father

-Getting a slice of wedding cake in a napkin to take away

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@RainStorm: I think it’s called a “wedding breakfast” because in older times a couple would fast for their wedding and break the fast after the wedding.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Oh i thought it was called that simply because it was the first meal as a married couple, just as breakfast is the first meal of the day. You learn something new every day hey!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@The Unsuspecting Bride: I’ve already told my other half that there’s no way on this planet we’re having fruit cake as I believe it to be cake in it’s most unholy form Laughing

In other words, it is indeed the cake of the devil. Fortunately he agrees with me. Yuck.

Post # 10
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Newbee

@RainStorm: Earlier this month I went to a cousins wedding, one of the bridesmaids made a speech, it was the first time I have seen that at a British wedding. I did think her speech was so lovely, and so nice to hear something about the Bride not only jokes at the grooms expense!!!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I know this is an old thread, but I think it’s interesting.

@The Unsuspecting Bride: I’m from the US and at almost every wedding I’ve been to you get to take home cake in a little napkin. Personally I think it’s really messy and a lot of the cake gets left behind for the bride and groom to deal with.

 

@RainStorm: In my area speeches are traditionally done by the maid of honor, best man, and occasionally the father of the bride. 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Cutting the cake with a sword!!! hehe

yeah, I thought speeches were just father of the bride and the best man… I went to an american wedding and every bloody person got up and spoke! maybe it was personal choice rather than nationality but it was faaaaar too long!

I noticed that cocktail hour thing on four weddings, Ive never seen it here.

Post # 14
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Newbee

@RainStorm: I agree, a good fruit cake can be ace, I guess most people have never had a good one!!!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1993

I’ve never been to an open bar wedding over here – it seems the norm in the US. Most weddings I’ve attended have a glass or two of bubbly then wine with the meal, but everything else is cash only.

Further, UK weddings dont have ‘cocktail hour’ in the same way the US weddings do. There is usually a gap with a glass or two of bubbly and maybe a couple of canapes but nothing on the scale you lot do it!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

so that‘s what I’m having – a British wedding! Yay! Feel much better now.

(fruit cake need not apply)

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