(Closed) What tasks have you assigned to your FI?

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
1194 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Mine was assigned with finding a caterer, which I ended up taking over.  He sent out emails inquiry about catering but never followed up.

I made him look for an officiant and send me his top 3 for me to email them.

And, his main job is to select our readings.

Post # 4
1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We work together to make most of the major decisions.  I wouldn’t be worried that your Fiance hasn’t worked on the music yet.  We only signed a contract with our DJ a a few months ago for our July wedding.

Post # 5
2404 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

right now his biggest task is to insure the engagement ring! after that maybe help select a caterer. I usually/seem to do all the legwork and then let him know what we are doing or give him our options and get his opinion on things.

Hes not really into any of the details or what anything looks like ! ha, fine by me. The only thing he really cares about is the music so i think he’ll be more involved in finding a band.

Post # 6
1148 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Let’s see…the only two things I’ve actually assigned him are food and calling the venue. Because of his work schedule he just hasn’t called the venue and I finally compromised and said that I’d draw up a couple of different menus and he could tweak one to make it work. Also, he has to deal with all of his bridal party friends, because I don’t feel comfortable talking to most of them.

Post # 8
4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

His biggest task is honeymoon planning!! I tend to obsess over planning things so I told him that I wanted him to plan the whole honeymoon, and I don’t even want to hear about it. He’s having a blast trying to keep it a surprise!

Post # 9
3979 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

He’s in charge of:

Picking the menu
His travel arrangements
Moving me from Canada to the US

This way I can focus on all the little details while he handles the major ones!

Post # 10
259 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

He has been in charge of:

Selecting the venue. Coordinating all of the alcohol with the caterer and giving input on the menu. Helping choose the readings. Designing the groom’s cake. Selecting gifts for the groomsmen. Choosing the little people for the top of the cake (he was absolutely INSISTENT that the cake have little people on it). Going dress shopping to a store I knew I would not buy from and telling me in general what he liked and did not like. Planning the honeymoon. Arranging for transportation.

He has been on the ball and on top of everything I have asked him to do.

Post # 11
89 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Mine is taking care of the programs!   πŸ™‚

Post # 12
573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We’ve been making most of the big decisions together, but I did put him in charge of the music….which has me worried because he never actually signed anything with the DJ he talked to and hasn’t been able to get ahold of him lately (he’s called, texted, emailed) and someone told us he moved to Maryland!

Post # 13
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

He does all the phone calls. πŸ™‚ I do a lot of pre-research and then give him a list of vendors to call. He picked our venues (after running it by me for the ‘okay’), helped me pick our photog, just booked our DJ (out of a list of 10 local djs that I gave him from WeddingWire). Actually, he’ll be in charge of everything having to do with the DJ (except a few Do Not Plays that I’ll pass along). He just asked his guys and is on the hunt for the perfect suits. He’s also the main contact for our friend who will be officiating.

I’d say he does 1/4th – 1/3rd of the planning. At least half the actual ‘work’ of it, while I do more brainstorming and bargain hunting.

Post # 14
1897 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010


My caveman has it good, I took the reigns with this one.  πŸ˜‰  He’s appreciative of the work I’ve been doing, and I enjoy the freedom of making my own decisions. 

Post # 15
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I definitely have done 90% of the stuff, but I put him in charge of music (both piped & live), the mens attire, sound equipment & valet stuff.  Most of the other stuff I ask for his opinion, but he could care less and tells me to just pick! πŸ™‚

Post # 16
838 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Hes assigned to show up 15 mins before the ceremony starts!.

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