(Closed) What. The. Heck. (long…)

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 4
Member
1639 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Future.McGuffee:  I still think you need to tell your FI that your FMIL is the reason no one is coming to the wedding. HE needs to know and deal with her. How he reacts will set the precedence for your marriage.

Post # 6
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2084 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Future.McGuffee:  Why is your FI telling his mother the problems and arguments you two have? Those issues are between the two of you. He is creating more drama for you guys by letting her in on your arguments and issues. I’m sure he knows how she responds to these things by now.

First I would question why he is telling her these things and ask him to stop. If he needs to vent to someone about relationship issues, it might not hurt to seek out counseling. Unfortunately, when someone vents to a friend or family member about issues in the relationship, they are only telling the story from their side. Then, that friend of family member may form a poor opinion of you. This is why I do not tell all of our business to friends and family members.

Now that your FMIL has these issues with you, I think you all three need to sit down with a counselor and sort these issues out. I think sitting down with a counselor will be the best way to get everyone on the same page and regain mutual respect, if that’s possible at this point. Otherwise, everytime there is an issue in the relationship and he runs to tell mommy, she is going to blame you. I don’t think you want to live your life trapped in this sort of drama.

 

Post # 7
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491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Well I really hope you have a fabulous wedding and they all realise how silly they were to miss out. They really should trust your FI to pick someone good for himself too! 

Post # 9
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1691 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@greenidlady:  I was wondering the same thing.  He shouldn’t be running to mommy when you have problems.  That’s not ok, ever.  You need to make sure that stops ASAP.

I’m sorry she’s such a cow.  Prove her wrong – that is the best revenge!

Post # 12
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3645 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

*hugs*

 

I do think that this will bring you and your FI closer though. Perhaps every time you hear something mean that she has said you should kiss him or …. *other* him, just to silently punish her. 😛

Edited for typo

Post # 16
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1691 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Future.McGuffee:  well that makes sense, and it is much better sounding than his mom knows because he told her.  Sorry that we all assumed, but didn’t realize it was on FB and the only logical reason seemed to be he told her as I doubt you would have.

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