(Closed) What the heck? Confused

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
68 posts
Worker bee

Maybe when he is not with you he is keeping himself busy say at work or out with friends and he just thinks of your core relationship which makes him really happy.

Then when he is alone with you he starts to think and the engagement/proposal comes into his head and maybe he is feeling a little of pressure to do it right or to make it happen.

i would not say anything as of yet, maybe organise a nice date night like a movie where you can enjoy each others company just the two of you but yet he is still a little distracted ?


Post # 4
3636 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I don’t want to get your hopes too high, but there was a thread about a year ago where a waiting Bee was convinced that her SO was cheating on her. He was withdrawn and cold and awful – turns out he was SO scared that she would figure out he was planning on proposing in a few days that he didn’t want to be too lovey-dovey – so he turned off the charm.

It sounds to me like this might be the case, especially seeing as he has been extra charming when away, as if he just can’t contain himself and his excitement.

Post # 5
5778 posts
Bee Keeper

Men can be as confusing as women!

My own reaction would be to just come right out and say ‘Hey sweetie, why u being so weird?” ….but this is just what I’d do, not necessarily what’s right.

I agree he may be leading up to a proposal and be scared and nervous. Or trying too hard not to give anything away- thinking if he walks around with a big sappy grin he’ll give himself away, lol but the poor guy has gone overboard with it :p In this scenario maybe it’s not a good idea to say ‘hey why u being so weird?’ but to just ride it out til after your anniversary has passed.

He may also be planning a proposal- but just not so soon (I started a thread about this very thing just a few days ago). He might be planning something for June or the summer or even the fall, but he’s scared you’ll have your hopes up for this anniversary and he’s worried you’ll be upset if this isn’t ‘it’.


Post # 6
1430 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Like pps – I’ve had friends tell me their SOs went quite funny with them leading up to the proposal… I’m wondering, especially with him asking you about the blue ring…

Post # 8
373 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

tarabunny:  I actuallly got into a fight with my DH the night before the proposal. We went to a wedding and there he kept making stupid jokes about how the guy is now chained down, and how guys always feel pressured if they are not engaged at someone else’s wedding and how he isn’t so sure about marriage. Keep in mind that I have never brought up marriage to him at all. So after enough jokes I finally got fed up and said “If this is you hinting that you don’t want to marry me you don’t have to!” and then I walked out of the wedding. The next day I was still pissed when we went out to walk around….until he popped the question. I guess he was nervous about proposing so he was just trying to make it seem like it was the last thing he wanted to do…Men are funny that way.


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