- 8 years ago
Okay bees, talk me off my I want to scream ledge, PLEASE! 🙁
We are getting married on a Friday night. I know it isn’t the most convenient thing ever for people – and I’m totally fine with folks not coming if it really doesn’t work with their schedule. HOWEVER! I am NOT fine with the phone calls that keep coming in, before we have even sent our STD’s from family and friends who think they should have some say in changing our wedding date or making us feel guilty about picking it!
We picked a Friday for many reasons – mainly though, it was the difference between us getting married in a beautiful place with a full dinner delivered under a budget of 6k – or – not getting married this year and spending another year saving up. We will have been together for 4.5 years by then, owned our house for 2.5 years – he’s going to be 31 and I’ll be 29. We are ready, now, and we want get married, start our lives together and have a family.
So far the people who have complained? Darn near everyone. Friends who don’t want to take the day off or half off of work, friends who do an annual camping trip that weekend, an usher who’s birthday is two days beforehand, anyone and everyone we know who is a hunter (sorry peeps, I KNOW it’s deer season, I can’t help it) and now – drum roll please – one of my bridesmaids.
I chose my Fiance little sister who is going to be 20 as one of my bridesmaids. She has never been in a wedding before (strike 1) and lives in the dorms at college on the other side of the state (strike 2). For those two reasons, I asked her but knew she wouldn’t be super involved, which I was okay with. Asking her was a big deal and something that I know meant a lot to her. Basically, buy the dress, fly home, show up at the rehearsal and the wedding. Not a big issue.
Today, we got a call from their Dad about the wedding. It’s 9 months away still, and his sister called Dad to apparently have a meltdown about being in the wedding. She is worried about everything – getting home in time, participating, etc. When Fiance got the call his Dad basically was questioning our reasons behind picking “such a hard time for people to be there.”
He told his dad flat out that it was $1700 cheaper (venue and catering costs) than if we had chosen a Saturday. Dad was surprised (why!? my Fiance has even been married before – everyone knows it’s pricey!?) Whether or not she is IN the wedding, she will end up flying home for it. Dad can afford her flight, her dress and anything she needs so this wasn’t a financial freak out. She has time to arrange her class schedule (and I know she can get classes early on Fridays), ask her professors to work with her, etc. We go to the same college (I’m in a distance program) and it isn’t midterms OR finals for her.
I’m planning to email her and talk her off the ledge – I’m not actually angry with HER about this at all. She’s a worrier like my Fiance is so this isn’t a big deal. What I AM pissed off about is the way people think they can come along and say BS things to a bride and groom like this!? Who tells people that their wedding is on a bad day for their schedule??!!!!
WHAT. THE. HELL. IS. WRONG. WITH. PEOPLE!