(Closed) What?! Three years??!! :Cposted 7 years ago in Waiting
- 7 years ago
And if you had been with a man for 6 years, received a promise ring 3 years in, got an apartment with them, decided to discuss marriage one day to only find that their plans for the future didn’t match yours/they lead you on to believe a proposal is coming when it really isn’t, later they use their friend’s engagements and family’s relationships as excuses for why they can’t commit, but they convince you to buy a house with them, get a puppy, take you on several impromptu international vacations with them while their family and your family jump down your throat every day on the phone saying they are going to propose, when in actuality after 5 years together he hasn’t even thought about a ring, meanwhile all of your friends are rubbing in the fact that they are all married and you are the last one left in the group…. you then decide to go back to college to find a distraction from the stress of it all and are about to finish your degree and there still is no ring on your finger, and after it all, you can easily say that the stress of pursuing a double major and maintaining a 4.0 is nothing compared to the stress of waiting for the person you love and decided 2 years into the relationship that you would marry literally has made no progress towards marriage(and has no financial or other obstacles other than his own befuddling brain stopping him from proposing to you)to actually propose to you, you would say the same thing too.
There are so many other fish in the sea and quite honestly despite how financially and emotionally invested in this relationship i have become, I would have skipped over a lot of needless depression, tears, jealousy, longing, and bitterness had I cut it off In our apartment when he became wishy washy about anything related to the “m” or “w” word from the start. Unfortunately, I was young and Naive and wouldn’t make that mistake again.
If the OP is %100 happy with doing things on her SO’s terms and chancing the disappointment I have been through, then I am happy for them. I replied to their post because their situation was somewhat similar to mine at one time and I wouldn’t wish this emotional roller coaster on my worst enemy.
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