Post # 1
Ok, so I know there have been a couple posts about this but I want to make a new one. My mom and I were just talking (well, arguing) over Skype about when to start the ceremony. I’ve set it as 4:30. The timeline looks like this:
4:30 – Ceremony
5:00 – Cocktail hour
5:45 – Toasts
6:00 – Dinner
We are having a backyard wedding so everything will take place in one space, the transitions should be fairly smooth.
My mom has been discussing the ceremony with her friends- they convinced her to convince me to start the ceremony at 3 PM. Their logic is that there is stronger light at 3 PM so they can see us clearer, and it’ll be warmer at that time. Now my mom wants the ceremony to start at 3 PM and dinner to be served at 4 PM. Early bird special, if you know what I mean.
A 4 PM dinner sounds terrible. I am trying to convince her that there will be enough light at 4:30 to have the ceremony. We are having this ceremony in Los Angeles on October 30th, and an online almanac tells me sunset will be 6:00 PM.
We haven’t been in contact with a photographer (lagging, I know) to talk about if it would be good lighting for pictures and such. I am curious, when is everyone starting their ceremony? Why did you pick that time? Especially for outdoor weddings, are you worried about the light or the temperature?
(And what kind of ammo can I have against my mom and her gaggle of 60+ friends who want a 4 PM dinner?)
Post # 3
4:30 is fine for lighting in October. My wedding is 10/17/10 & we’re starting the ceremony at 5:30. It’s an evening wedding & we wanted it to be around sunset time but there will be light at that time too. I think you’re fine with 4:30, do whatever you want!
Post # 4
I was going to start at 6, but my mother insisted on 6:30, when the clock is on the upswing. Some kind of supperstition, but I want to do pics after the ceremony (perfect light for mid summer) and evening pics at the fountain outside (all lit up all summer). I will all work out perfectly.
Post # 5
My photographer told us that she actually thinks the best light is just before sunset – where the light isn’t to harsh, has a golden tone, and in our case, we are positioning ourself so that we are side-lit (as per her request – it also happens to work well for the balcony the wedding is on). Having overhead, super-bright sun will mean that your guests are stuck wearing sunglasses, you might be squinty, and it adds to shadows in photos.
Post # 6
I think your timeline looks good…I think 3 pm is a little too early…thats almost lunch instead of cocktail hour and dinner!
as far as your ammo…its YOUR wedding…you do what you want! 😉
Post # 7
we are getting married in february..you know, when the sun sets way earlier? after discussing it with out photog and venue, we are starting at 4:30 and cocktail hour is starting at 5. that was when everyone recommended it start.
disclaimer: we live in central texas which is why we are trying to get married outside, in the middle of “winter”.
Post # 8
Ours was at 4pm in early summer and it was fine. Our photographer agreed with our decision, saying that’s when she’d gotten married too. Tell your mother that since you are not a nana, you don’t want to eat dinner in broad daylight 🙂
Post # 9
Thanks for your input everyone. I did some research around photography websites and forums and found that the best light is right before sundown. I sent my mom the links and hopefully that will end this talk about a 3 PM ceremony. But I’d still like to hear about when everybody’s ceremony is gonna go down!
Post # 10
Wedding at 4 photos at 5:30 ish!!!