Post # 1
I have heard and read conflicting information regarding what time to put down on my invitations vs start time of wedding. My venue said to put down the time that the actual wedding will start (5:30). However, my officiant has suggested that we put down (5:00) so that people will not be late. I am afraid that if we put down 5:00 people will show up before that and then have to sit around for 1/2 hour for the ceremony to start. However, I also don’t want people showing up in the middle of my ceremony. For all the weddings I have been to I assume that the time on the invitation is the time the wedding is going to start and get there earlier.
Post # 3
Depends on your guests.. are they the type that come on time to events? My guests usually come half and hour late so I will put an earlier time on my invites. It also depends on whats socially accepted in your area..
Post # 4
I wouldnt try to trick your guests into being on time. I would put your actual wedding time on your invitations. People know to do their best to arrive to weddings on time.
Post # 5
My husband and I tend to arrive at weddings 15 minutes prior to the start time specified on the invitation. If I arrived at your ceremony and found out that I was actually 45 minutes early, I’d be upset. Personally, I view fudging the start time of the ceremony equivalent to lying to the couples who are courteous enough to be on time.
Post # 6
If you put 5:00 down, I’d show up by 4:45 or earlier and would start getting annoyed/anxious around 5:20 when the ceremony hadn’t started yet. The plan for my wedding is to put 3:00 on the invitations and not actually start the ceremony until 3:15. Could you put 5:30 down on your invites, and delay the ceremony start until 5:45?
Post # 7
I will def be putting an earlier time for my guests.
Post # 8
@tlaurits:15 minutes should be enough. 30 minutes is a little excessive.
Post # 9
We put the actual time. I know that I always get to weddings early, and I’d be really annoyed if I had to wait longer. Plus, the chances that you are actually ready by the actual start time is pretty slim. No matter how hard you try to stay on schedule, things come up and you’ll probably be a few minutes late.
Post # 10
I’d say put 5:30 down and start your ceremony at 5:40. You shouldn’t keep your guests sitting around for 30 minutes because some guests might be rude enough to show up 1/2 and hour late. Everyone will be there by 5:30/5:35 anyways, so just pad it by 10ish minutes and you’ll be fine
Post # 11
I would put the actual time. As someone who always arrives early, I would be annoyed if I had to wait because you intentionally put an earlier time down. Arriving late to a wedding is extremely rude if you ask me – I wouldn’t make my friends who are there on time have to wait.
I could see maybe planning to start the wedding 5 mins later than the time the invitation says, but anymore than that, and you’ll be annoying your other guests.
Post # 12
I would put the actual time, and then start the ceremony 10-15 minutes late. Chances are, you will be running late anyway, particularly if you are doing any sort of pictures beforehand (whether it be first look, or just pictures of you and your bridal party). I am always on time, and even typically run 15 minutes early… so if your invitations said 5:00, and I showed up at 4:45, and the ceremony didnt start for another 45 minutes to an hour, I would definitely be annoyed.
Post # 13
We’re going with 15 minutes…not too long, but enough time just in case. 15 minutse won’t hurt anybody, including your guests.
Post # 14
30 minute is way too long. When I see 5 i assume the wedding starts at 5 and I will probably be ther at 4:45. So I would be sitting there for 45 minutes waiting and be upset. Its not your fault if you guests can’t be on time and I don’t think you should make those who make it on time suffer for it.
Post # 15
I would put down an earlier time. my vennue actually recommended to place an earlier time. when i went to my friends wedding, she placed an earlier time and i arrived 45 min early which i really didnt mind because i got to mix and mingle with people and got to admire the venue itself.
Post # 16
If I ever got an invitation and showed up early/on time for what was written, I would not be happy if it was a later time! How annoying!
I put the actual start time on mine and with the set up of my outdoor ceremony people will want to hide in the bushes rather than show up late, ha!