Post # 1
Bees, we had a tough time deciding between a lunch or an early-evening appetizers-only reception. After reviewing our budget and food options, I was surprised that we actually get more food for less money doing a nice lunch buffet rather than cocktail party apps.
But now I don’t know what time to have the reception. We have the venue all day, and I’d always envisioned starting our reception at 3 or 4. But now we almost have too much food to do a between meals time like that.
Is 2:00 too late for a lunch? There will be booze too, so I don’t want people to be getting wasted at noon, you know? I’d rather not have our ceremony in the morning… maybe 1:00 or 1:30.
And would it be tacky to let people know there’s an “after party” somewhere, if they want to come out for dinner/drinks, but that would be everyone pays themselves?I’m kind of sad to think my wedding will be over by 5 pm, so I’d love to have the option to keep hanging out with people, but we can’t pay for 2 receptions…
Post # 3
okay, for the after party, I think you should see if your bridesmaids can take the reins on that. If everyone is paying for themselves, then maybe your bms can just say to people “some of us will be grabbing drinks after at ___, you should join us.” This way it isn’t part of the wedding exactly, but still people will know and come. I think if you were to send some sort of invite it would blur those lines, but word of mouth is probably best here.
not sure about your other question. I agree that later is usually better in terms of alcohol. Im not sure that the time matters that much as long as the invitations clearly state that a lunch reception will follow, so people can plan accordingly
Post # 4
I’m also planning a lunch reception for 2pm! The reception will be from 2-6pm I do think it is sort of late for lunch but our venue wasn’t available any eariler. We did look at a few other venues within a few blocks but none worked out.
We’re also having an after party!! It will be at a local bar. We can rent a private room for free as long as we meet the food and beverage minimum. We’re planning to order appetizers for the group and then keep the bar tab open until we hit the minimum, then people will have to pay for their own drinks. I dont’ think it would be bad to have something non-hosted though, where guests are welcome to join you at a bar after the reception but you don’t have to pay for the tab.