Post # 1
what time is it ok for a bridesmaid to leave. All day long 2 of my bridesmaids were drinking heavily for my wedding. Pretty much as soon as the first dance was over they were bailing on me. The one has anxiety issues and admits she drank and that’s what sent her into an attack. The other one I haven’t even talk to. That one has her parents come to the wedding( I love them so they were totally invited) and when they were leaving she said she was going with. I asked her not to. Even found her a designated driver , someone she knew, to take her home at the end of the night. She didn’t even say goodbye. I turned around and she was gone. I’m not sure what to say to her. Any advice. Also we are all in are 30’s
Post # 2
Were they there for the ceremony, pictures and dinner? At a certain point they become guests like everyone else and may leave when they want to/need to leave, especially your friend who was having an anxiety attack.
Post # 3
The one with the anxiety attack I totally understand. I have anxiety also. I guess my feeling are just hurt bc I didn’t get to dance with 2 of my girls. We had a band and everything and with all the drinking they missed it all
Post # 4
melissakbi : They”re guest like everyone else and can leave whenever they are ready to leave. There isn’t a criteria that states they have to stay til the very end. They were there to support during the ceremony and enjoyed part of the reception. I don’t see the issue. We had people leave as well. They didn’t need an excuse to leave if they were ready to leave.
Post # 5
Erm….. when they want/need to? Bridesmaids are not obligated to stay until the end.
Did you’re bridemaid know this designated driver you found for them? I wouldn’t let a total stranger take me home from a wedding when I’d maybe had a bit too much to drink and was vulnerable. In her situation I’d be going home with my parents too, especially if it was a drive away.
And the one having the anxiety attack, yes definitely she can go when she needs too. Alcohol or not a thing like a wedding where someone with anxiety is in a situation where as a bridesmade attention is on them or they are under pressure to perform is going to trigger their anxiety, and potentially something you as a friend should have considered.
Post # 6
This sounds a bit dramatic. One left because she had an anxiety attack and the other left because the people she was with were also leaving. It sounds like she did tell you she was leaving since she told you that she was going with her parents, you just chose not to hear it.
when they were leaving she said she was going with. I asked her not to. Even found her a designated driver , someone she knew, to take her home at the end of the night. She didn’t even say goodbye.
Post # 7
Bridesmaids usually stay until the very end in my experience. I would be miffed if they ditched after the meal. That said, they did what they did. Try to focus on the fun and rest of the people and your husband and less on them.