What time should we host our elopement party?

posted 2 months ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Helper bee

i would host 1-4, and be clear on your invitation a meal will not be served-  “please join us for light fare and cake” etc or just “cake and punch” etc.  that way your guests can plan to grab a meal before or after.

Just out of curiosity, what kind of snacks are you planning?  A very simple meal of pasta, salad, and garlic bread can be substantial and extremely cost effective.  I completely respect your budget, but sometimes for the cost of a snack spread, you can provide a hearty meal if you are smart about it!

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

It’s really, really hard (and rude) to plan an evening event and not serve a meal–I second PPs suggestion to have it in the afternoon. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

brideandblue :  I also agree with PPs recommendation: serve a simple menu of pasta, salad and bread in the early afternoon. Not in the evening, no “open house”. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

brideandblue :  Maybe like 7 so people can eat a full dinner before they come? I’ve been invited to plenty of evening parties/get togethers where it’s just appetizers and no full dinner, those were casual events so it was normal, and it sounds like your going for a casual, laid back vibe?

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

It doesnt sound like you’ll have “lots of food”. You specifically call it snacks, which sounds less than appies. You shouldn’t hold it over a meal hour, so I agree with pps that 1-4 (more likely 2-4) or late evening, 7/8-10 would be fine. Maybe indicate that its a appetizer reception or something, so people eat prior.

Post # 12
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Busy bee

brideandblue :  Tell them they can bring dishes they love to share! Like a potluck.

Orrrr get some meat and ask guests to bring their favorite sides or desserts? 🙂 Having food there will keep guests there longer.

Or, snacks, but also hor d’oeuvres. If it’s indoor and outdoors, maybe like 3-4ish? IF you consider the above options.

If not, then maybe around 6 so that people can eat and stop by to chat and greet, congratulate and share some cake with you. 🙂

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Montego Bay, Jamaica

what is an elopement party? 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper

brideandblue :  It does matter. I think “light refreshments” is a nice way of phrasing the minimal food aspect. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

brideandblue :  I think it sounds fun, and it sounds like it’s the norm in your circle.

I came on here for advice when planning my marriage celebration/party whatever you want to call it, and got the same comments about how rude it is to not have a full meal for a reception/evvening event. We had ours at 7 PM, and did apps (sliders, cheeseboard, veggie trays, etc) and we had a ton of food leftover. We made it clear on the invite that it was just drinks and apps, so no one came or left with an empty stomach.

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