What time should we host our elopement party?

posted 6 months ago in Reception
Post # 17
311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

It sounds like this is just at your place to have a time when people can come and go to enjoy celebrating your new marriage. Did you ever think about doing it slightly pot luck style? This way you could have it go through dinner time and have it when you want, and people can have dinner? Just a thought… If I was invited to something like that I would be totally happy to bring a dish along to celebrate.

Post # 20
1845 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

If your primary worry is heat, what about a brunch open house, you could have mimosas, donut holes, coffee, cake and your sliders and have it from 9-12?

I wouldnt do it over a dinner hour without a meal or places for people to sit and eat. 

Plus… if it’s dark you’ll need to worry more about lighting (especially for hilly ground you can’t set tables on). And more bugs/ mosquitoes are worse in the evening in some locations.  

Post # 23
700 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Montego Bay, Jamaica

brideandblue :  good for you guys getting married how you want!! We had a tiny wedding in Jamaica 🙂 

Post # 25
1054 posts
Bumble bee

brideandblue :  Hey! I am doing the same thing! 

What I have decided to do is rent a park pavillion and I’m looking into having pizza catering. They bring a woodfire oven to the location. If all goes well, I will have a table set up with pizzas, and then I’m looking into buying a bunch of prepackaged salad and dressings as well as making a quick pasta dish. I’m planning on making cupcakes instead of having wedding cake. I normally make desserts for my family, I just did my sister’s baby shower and made 100 cupcakes (vanilla with huckleberry filling and huckleberry buttercream, chocolate with orange filling and chocolate icing, salted caramel infused mocha with caramel icing, and lemon with sweet tea icing). 

Ok enough bragging. Do they have any food carts in your area? That sounds like a really good option for you. I found that they were a bit cheaper, and since people would have to go to the cart to order their food and can find places to sit after it sounds ideal. 

Post # 26
6540 posts
Bee Keeper

Yes, it still matters over a meal hour even if it’s an open house. That’s not enough food–if someone doesn’t eat pork or bread they get some grapes and cheese? 

Consider adding some salads, grilled veggies, cookies, etc. 

Post # 27
311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

brideandblue :  You could still plan it out as apps and dessert….it might just be me thinking this….but if there are enough fun and different apps at a party that everyone can have plenty and feel full from I would consider it a meal. My husband and I are on a bowling league that has a “pot luck night” at the end of the season and it’s just a ton of different appetizers but I don’t think anyone goes to that having eaten dinner or planning to eat dinner after….we consider that our dinner! I would assume an appetizer style pot luck would still allow for people to show up and leave as they wish? Maybe not though…but you could talk to some friends/family and see what they think of the idea? Maybe recommend people bringing their dishes in disposable containers so they aren’t needing to take the dish home with them when they head out?

I guess I’m a little differing in opinion than it looks like most of the comments are…but if it’s intended to be a “come and go as you please” type thing. Even if people want to plan attending around their own personal dinners because they don’t think they will have enough to eat from appetizers…then they can do that. Plan it when you want. If I was going to your party and had a specific diet to where I’d need to eat dinner elsewhere….I’d see the 4pm-9pm (or whatever you end up going with) party time and choose to either eat before and hit your place at 7pm or go early at 4pm and head out to eat dinner after. Just my two cents. 🙂

Post # 29
491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I would start the event at 7pm and up the amount of food your offering.  I don’t think you have to serve a formal full meal, but your guests will expect to eat.  The sliders, cheese board, fruit and veggies sound like a great start.  I would consider adding some additional items like summer salads, skewers, easy hor’dourves.  Adding light refreshments to the invite may also be a good idea. On a Friday night I personally would go to the event on an empty stomach due to logistics of eating between work and the events and due to the expectation of being fed at a wedding celebration.  

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