(Closed) What time to print on invites

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Should I print on the invite 4:00 or 4:30?

    4:00

    4:30

  • Post # 16
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

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    namsayin :  man, i would not be happy if i planned for traffic and was sitting around at your venue waiting around.  see my story in the above post. i think your planners are giving bad advice.

    Post # 17
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    Bumble Beekeeper

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    namsayin :  Um welcome to the internets, where people can reply to any post on a public forum! If you gon be rude and give rude advice, you should be prepared to be called out on it.

    Just like if someone suggests a cash bar, or asking for cash, or wanting their bridesmaids to all dye their hair the same colour for the wedding. Rude advice = getting called out.

    Post # 18
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    Newbee

    Definitely put the actual start time.  Like others have said most people will arrive early anyways assuming you’re putting the actual start time.  With that said; this is especially useful in case ‘life happens’ and you are running late to your own ceremony.  (Pictures take long, dad steps on your dress lol).  If you put the actual start time and things run 10-15 minutes late for whatever reason it won’t seem as bad vs. saying the ceremony starts at 4 – then it actually starts at 430 and if things come up you actual don’t start till 445 or so.  That’s a long time for people to wait (especially if you’re having kids at the wedding/ guests bring kids).  

    Post # 19
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    Busy bee

    Ladies, I understand what I’m choosing to do is not a popular choice, but please respect it. I’m having a different time put on my invitation for the following reasons 

    1. It’s a common practice amongst our social group and in socal (I think). Almost every wedding I’ve been to has had a different start time than what was written on the invitation. Most common buffer I’ve seen is 30 min, I’ve even been to one that started 45 minutes after what it said on the invite. 

    2. Traffic in LA is unpredictable and no GPS app is at all accurate. Google Maps may say it’ll only take 1.5 hours but while you’re driving it may increase your time to 2.5 hours. So yes people should plan for traffic, but LA traffic is the biggest bitch ever and I’d feel better having a 30 min buffer, especially for a drive that’s 40 miles and unfamiliar to 95% of our guests. 

    3. My wedding planners suggested it for reason above. 

    I honestly shouldn’t even have to explain my reasons. OP asked for opinions and I simply stated mine. 

    Post # 20
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    And people replied why its rude. So, cool.

    Post # 21
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    Busy bee

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    jellybellynelly :  I understand why you would think it’s rude, although I don’t understand your need to call it out. it’s not really any of your business. I went to a friend’s wedding where the groom was marrying a Korean woman and all of the Korean guests brought cash as gifts. And apparently this is the norm for East Asian weddings (even those held in America)  So I assume when East Asian people marry, they may ask for cash because it’s their culture. So what may be rude to you may not be to others. And again, I didn’t ask for your opinion, OP did. Sorry you feel the need to reply to those who have a different opinion than you. 

    Post # 22
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I would be kinda pissed and super antsy by the time the wedding started. I usually plan to arrive 10-15 minutes early and would not be happy at all to have a half an hour tacked on to the time I spend sitting and waiting.

    Post # 23
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    Bee Keeper

    Knowingly wasting people’s time is rude.  Adults have the capacity to plan.  Those who choose not to are rude and the ones who planned accordingly should not be punished for the rudeness of others.  A buffer of 5-10 minutes because someone forgot the bouquet in the bridal suite and ran back to get it is way different than misleading people and making them sit around waiting on you.  Most responsible adults understand what a start time means and will most likely even be early as a precaution.  If someone misses it, then they miss it and you still end up married and they learn to plan better in the future.

    Post # 24
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    Actual time. It’s really rude otherwise and I’d be super annoyed. 

    Post # 25
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    Buzzing bee

    I put wedding begins at 5 and on website indicated ceremony is 5:30. My family is always late so this way they be on time. 

    Post # 26
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2018

    “Doors open at 4:00. Ceremony to begin promptly at 4:30.”

     

    WOW, DONE!!! It gets the point across that you need to arrive between 4 and 4:30 and no one is lied to about the actual start time. Lying to guests is rude. A 5-10 minute buffer is fine, but don’t lie by any more than that. 

     

    Post # 27
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    If you were going to put an earlier start time, I would only put 15 minutes at most.  If you are worried about latecomers, just have somebody standing at the door and not letting anybody in until you’re all settled

    Post # 29
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

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    anewvogue :  it’s actually pretty common to have a different start time than what is on the invitation. every single one of my vendors has referred to the “invitation time” and the “actual start time”. THAT SAID, a 30 min difference is absurd and rude. The difference between the invitation time and actual start is usually 10 mins.

    So if you put 4:00 in the invitation, you should start absolutley no later than 4:10 (if you’re waiting for guests still. But if everyone is there at 4, you should start at 4).

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