(Closed) What time to put on invites???

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What time should I put?
    Half an hour early : (7 votes)
    10 %
    Correct time : (58 votes)
    83 %
    Half an hour early but mention correct time on website : (1 votes)
    1 %
    Other, I'll explain below : (4 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 16
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    1612 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    Put 5 on the invites and start at 505 to account for stragglers. I start all my events 5 minutes late (no more) to avoid ppl coming in late.

    Post # 17
    Member
    11 posts
    Newbee

    It depends on your guests’ culture. I put a half hour earlier on our invite, and many people were not even there yet at that time. 

    Post # 18
    Member
    3638 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    If people arrive at 5:00 it’s going to take about 15minutes for them all to be seated etc.

    So just do what invitations for pretty much every event I’ve ever been to (wedding or not) have said: 4:30pm for a 5:00pm start. 

    This lets people know that they are welcome at 4:30pm and have about half an hour to say hellos, check out the venue, take photos and find a seat. It also lets the late people know that if they miss 4:30, as long as it’s not yet 5:00pm they can find a good seat. 

    Post # 19
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    422 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2016 - Our Castle

    Id choose to put half and hour early and full details (correct time for ceremony start) on website. That way they know they should arrive at say 2:30 for the 3pm ceremony.. to find the venue, park, get seated etc.. and the initial time in their mind will be the one on the invite!

    I personally arrive early anyway (hate running late)

    Post # 20
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    9135 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    Ayybety:  Please put the correct time.  Most of your guests will be early or on time so telling them to come a half an hour early means they will be milling about and bored.  I told everyone to be on time because I was getting married at 5:30pm on the dot just as it was printed on the invitation.  When I see 4:00pm on the invite I expect the ceremony to start at 4pm on the dot or within 5 minutes so I make sure that I am there 10-15 minutes before 4pm to give me time to park and get seated.  A few guests will show up late no matter what time you put on your invitation or start because some people are never on time and sometimes they run late due to events beyond their control.

    Post # 21
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    9546 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Unless you’re doing some sort of cocktail hour before the ceremony, then you put the real start time on the invitation. People should arrive early enough to get seated prior to the start time. You may have to start a few (5-10) minutes late due to stragglers, but that’s a lot better than the guests who were on time (30 minutes early) waiting for an hour!

    Post # 22
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    65 posts
    Worker bee

    Our ceremony was to start at 5pm, the invitation said 445pm for a 5pm start. We still had a few people walk in pretty late, like 515 but what can you do!

    Post # 23
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    47197 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Thankfully, you have already decided to put the correct time on the invitation. I could some some guests being so annoyed that they would be reconsidering the amount in their gift envelope.

    Post # 24
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    1723 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN

    Ayybety:  Put the time the ceremony is supposed to start. Dont tick your guests off by making them wait.

    Post # 26
    Member
    5659 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    No definitely do not do that. Put the correct time. 

    Post # 27
    Hostess
    8575 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Correct time.

    Post # 28
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    5155 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Ayybety:  I went to a wedding recently and their start time was 6 pm…but they didnt start til 630. We had to stand around and wait until 630 when they sat us outside. That to me was annoying… I would have worn more comfortable heels!

    They did have music + wine while we waited but still.. I would have prefered to have known we wouldnt be seated until 6:30 so I didn’t show up at 5:40…. I would definitely put the real time. Ours says 5:30 but we can start a few minutes late because the ceremony will be VERY short.

    Post # 29
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    1772 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    It depends.  Our wedding is outside and the day will likely be hot.  We want a 5pm ceremony (the area will be in shade starting around 4:30) and we’re writing 5pm sharp and noting that the ceremony will start promptly at 5pm etc. because we didn’t want to say 4:30 and have early birds show up at 4 and then need to wait in the heat until 5pm.  We are spreading it through our website, word of mouth, and info packet that the ceremony is starting right at 5, so don’t be late.  I just couldn’t say an earlier time and risk our early bird guests melting in the heat.

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