Post # 31
She will get a zillion casseroles. They’re lovely but they do take time to heat up and serve.
I loved to get (and now bring it to new moms) a big basket of snacks and things you can eat with one hand. Those little 100 calorie packs of almonds, cheese / deli meat / crackers, hummus & carrots/celery, apples, string cheese, dried apricots, hard-boiled eggs (here you can buy the pre-shelled ones), etc.
And some homemade breakfast foods like muffins are always nice to have on hand but not as sugary as bringing cookies or brownies.
I usually pick out a single-serving desert for Mom like an iced sugar cookie. Something she can enjoy as a treat but not feel bad if she eats the whole thing because if wasn’t a whole sleeve of Girl Scout cookies;)
A bottle of wine / champagne if it’s a very close friend. And a little something for baby – a rattle, a book, etc.
Post # 32
Also, text ahead to see if she’s up for a visitor or would like you to just leave it on the porch. Give her an “out”. I loved visitors but a lot of my friends absolutely hated them.
If she does want you to come inside,
1) wash your hands and then immediately wash any dishes or cups in the sink to help out.
2) then offer to hold / rock the baby so Mom can get up, go to the bathroom, take a shower, etc.
3) get in & out in under 15 minutes unless she takes you up on the shower offer or she truly seems happy to have company.
Do not let her “entertain” you. This was my downfall and while I loved seeing friends and family, I was so exhausted after each visit because I wanted to be chatty, get them a drink from the kitchen, serve snack, etc and I wanted someone there so I wasn’t all alone all day.
Post # 33
mrswannabemomma : What’s not a thing in Canada? Pizza?! Or do you mean the Peapod thing? That’s just a grocery delivery service. I’m sure Canada has some type of equivalent. My point was, not every new mom needs tons of prepped meals. It might be nice to just do a grocery run for her and pick up the essentials: paper towels, baby wipes, etc.
You can also always just ask her what she’d appreciate the most and offer a few of the suggestions Bees have listed here. It’s best to go to a new mom with suggestions instead of just “what do you want me to do?” Because she’s probably exhausted and overwhelmed and can’t think straight. Maybe she can’t really piece together what would truly help her out the most either. But if she hears you suggest it, then it might become a lightbulb moment for her like “yes! that would be very helpful!”
Post # 34
Scarlett11 : I would have been fine in the food department if my kid hadn’t come nearly 3 weeks early! I had a long list of groceries to go buy and make freezer meals over a long weekend and then my water broke lol.
Post # 35
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mrswannabemomma : I had my baby 9 million years ago (Twenty, but who’s counting) but for me, not having to leave the house with the baby was the best thing.
If there are grocery delivery services in your area, I would buy her a certificate for that. That way if she needs wipes, or ice cream, or ibuprofen, or an ice pack, she doesn’t need to pack up the kiddo and head to the store.
While I understand the motive of bringing food, it’s not always practical. Freezer space, prep considerations, even tase preferences can be tricky. Giving her the flexibility to decide what she most needs for herself might be a more thoughtful approach.
Post # 36
TheGridMonster : lol right? Thanks !
Thanks everyone I actually messaged her and proposed a few different things to bring over and she mentionned she likes food she can eat with one hand (which is one of the things I proposed). I’ll be offering her an out if she doesn’t want us to come over. Thanks for all the suggestions.