Post # 1
I’ve posted about all the nonsense going on with my BIL and his (now pregnant) Fiance. We are going back to visit around Thanksgiving and the Fiance is about 3, maybe 4 months pregnant….they don’t know since they haven’t been to the doctor yet.
They are in a bad financial/living situation. Only DH’s family has the money to buy them anything for the baby. Instead of getting him useless video games or something for Christmas and his bday, I wanted to buy them stuff for the baby. Preferably larger things since we will be there and aren’t able to ship large items from overseas. I can always mail baby clothes….
So what should we get them? I’m not considering a crib b/c I know Mother-In-Law will probably get that (once they finally tell her) and I don’t want to get non-useful items since they won’t have a lot of space once they get their own place. What’s most useful?
Post # 3
A car seat is something they’ll need.
A swing is nice to have (find one that plugs in, not battery-only).
Post # 4
What about a glider with a foot rest? My SIL has one and she loved it.
Post # 5
I vote for larger items that they really need and can use for an extended period of time. I like the idea of the car seat, but would also consider a nice stroller (unless they really want to wear their baby literally everywhere they go) or maybe a portacrib/playpen (moms seem divided on this).
I know this isn’t a tangible item, but I would consider gifting a monthly subscription through Amazon for necessities such as diapers and having them delivered. Since they’re in financial difficulties, I’m sure that would be really helpful.
Post # 6
I like the idea of the diaper subscription, it seems like the most helpful thing for a couple with financial difficulties.
You might want to consider getting BIL at least a little something for himself for his b-day… maybe take them out to dinner, a t-shirt, an iTunes gift card, whatever… you probably have some idea of what he would like. I suggest this for 2 reasons:
1) when money is tight, little indulgences are more valuable
2) with a baby coming, and their family needing a lot of help, he is probably a bit overwhelmed with the “get serious, you’re a dad now” dialog. That’s true, and important, but he’s still an individual. Having his birthday subsumed in the becoming-a-father thing isn’t the best way to make him feel treasured by his family for being who he is.
Just my 2-cents, and I admit I haven’t read all the backstory, so forgive me if I am way off base. Good luck!
Post # 7
@abbyful: I was definitely leaning towards a car seat!
@arsing89: That’s a great idea….IDK if it’d work for them though as they are sharing bedroom in a house with their 2 yo ATM and now we’re not sure if they’ll be getting an apartment any time soon.
@lilbluebird: OOHHH….I had no idea Amazon did something like that….that is a great idea.
@LizTheProcrastinator: I actually had bought BIL a couple of things for Christmas before we found out about the baby and I’m still giving those to him. I doubt he’s overwhelmed ATM b/c his Fiance has a 2 yo that he’s been raising since she was a baby. The LO doesn’t know who her real father is and calls him “daddy”….which is why BIL wouldn’t leave his Fiance before even though he’s had lots of money/drug/legal issues since getting with her.
Post # 8
@texasbee: what about a gift card to a baby store where they might register? That way you don’t have to be the one deciding what they get – it might not be the style/color/item they would choose – and you’re still getting them something baby related?
Post # 9
@texasbee: Yes, search for Amazon Subscribe and Save. They have a ton of different brands and sizes available.
Here’s more information: http://www.amazon.com/gp/subscribe-and-save/details/index.html/ref=rcxsubs_dp_more
The only caveat is that if they change sizes for diapers, they need to let you know so you can edit the subscription to the new size.