Post # 1
For my wedding I’m having three bridesmaids, one will be my best friend, who will be the maid of honor, and then I’ll have two other bridesmaids, one of them being my younger sister. The problem I have is that my sister would be my maid of honor, but she will only be about 17 years old and she doesn’t want to be responsible for the “duties” of the maid of honor (whatever that means). That being said, I still want her to have a title as something other than just another bridesmaid, so she feels special.
So, my question is, do you have any suggestions to as what I might call her? And what about my other bridesmaid, should she just be my bridesmaid or should I give her a title as well? I’m so confused and I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings either!
Thanks so much!!!
Post # 3
@ayirk723: if your current MOH married? If so you can have a matron and a maid. My sister is my MOH but won’t be doing any traditional MOHish things – my friend/BM will be doing a lot of the supporting the bride stuff (and running intereference for me day of so I don’t know anything that goes wrong).
Call her your Junior MOH? Or she’s just a BM, I don’t think she needs a special title. I have 2 sisters, one is MOH, one’s a BM just like the other 2, she’ll just be second in line at the front.
Post # 4
You only have 2 bridesmaids and one maid of honour. How can they be “just another bridesmaid” if there are only two of them? Why do you need to give each of them a different title – isn’t the title of “bridesmaid” enough?
Sorry, but I just don’t understand the issue. I have 6 bridesmaids and all of them are thrilled to be “just another bridesmaid”. Being a bridesmaid IS a special title/role.
Post # 5
All this wedding party title stuff is silly. Being asked to stand up next to the bride and groom during their ceremony is a honor. No need to call your attendants anything fancy smancy. Besides hold the bouquet during the service what other MOH duties are there? Everything is optional from my understanding anyway. Heck if your MOH didn’t want to hold the bouquet you could place it on a side table .
Post # 6
If you have three bridesmaids, and you’re going out of your way to make two of them feel more special than ‘just’ being a bridesmaid, how is the third one going to feel? And to paraphrase, in a world where everyone is special, no one is. (was that from The Incredibles? Ha.)
Post # 7
@ayirk723: My sister is a junior bridesmaid but I’m having her wear the same color dress as the MOH because she’s my little angel I have to have her feel special. She’s my “lucky charm”
Post # 8
Ok, my point wasn’t to make anyone feel inadequate, as I stated above. I just don’t know what to do. I don’t want my other bridesmaid to feel bad and I said that. Just asking for suggestions. Where I live the MOH has “duties”, such as planning the bacherette party and other things. Maybe I just won’t have any MOH.
Post # 9
She already has a unique and special role among your bridal party: She is your sister. 🙂
Post # 10
You are way overthinking this. She’s a bridesmaid, the end.
Post # 11
My SIL did something similar. She didn’t have a MOH, she had 3 BMs. Two of them (her BF and my cousin) were in red, and then her little sister was in a little miniature version of my SIL’s wedding dress. Not an exact copy of her dress, but you get what I mean.
Post # 12
@ayirk723: since your sister is the one who didnt want to be MOH, I think its fine to call her a bridesmaid and leave it at that. Because that’s what she is.
Post # 13
One of my friends wanted to give her little sister a special title and called her a “maiden of honor.” I thought that was cute.
Post # 14
@MelissaMajoria: Aww that’s super sweet!!! I love that!
Post # 15
I think bridesmaid is special enough for your other bridesmaid and I think “maiden of honor” like @gemstone had suggested is so cute for your sister
Post # 16
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
If she doesn’t want the duties anyway, she will be happy with the title of bridesmaid.