(Closed) What to call a bridesmaid (in the program) that is not physically standing up

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I would just list her as normal.

ETA “honorary BM” impiies that the Bridesmaid or Best Man didn’t do any of the work of a Bridesmaid or Best Man but is being honored as if she did, so I think that would be an incorrect title for this occassion. She is still serving as a bridesmaid even if she doesn’t stand up there at the front. Is she still in the dress, holding a bouquet? Still walking down the aisle but then taking a seat? That’s what usually happens in these cases.

Post # 4
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Newbee

Isn’t it usually matron of honor? I have two older sisters who are already married and at my wedding they will be my matrons of honor while the other two ladies will be my bridesmaids…

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’d just call her a Bridesmaid. No one will get confused and think they’re at the wrong wedding if there’s 5 names in the program and 4 ladies standing up. Even if the dresses don’t match, if you seat her at the first row for the ceremony and give her a bouquet or corsage matching the rest of the ladies, people will figure out pretty quickly that #1 she’s part of the bridal party and #2 the wee baby she’s toting around is the reason she’s not lined up with the rest.

“Honorary bridesmaid” just feels clunky to me, kind of like a term you made up just for the sake of everyone getting a title.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

definitely keep her listed as Bridesmaid 🙂

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I had a bridesmaid that was doing the music. She was still listedsuch a bridesmaid. 

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I’d still just keep her as “Bridesmaid.” I think it’s fine even if she wants to be seated earlier. I’d include her with the bridesmaid when you have the grand entrance into the reception. She can walk in holding the infant if she wants. And if she needs to go in and sit sooner, she can get up and come back out fo the room to reenter.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Personally, I would keep her listed as a bridesmaid on the program, and have her seated in a place of honour, at the front with the family. She can be seated before the processional, but maybe have her seated later on (like when  the family is seated, in order to make it more special, and to help her stand out). If she doesn’t want to be seated at a special time, then she can just be seated whenever, but still have her seated in one of the reserved rows… at an end though, in case she needs to leave b/c of baby. Still giving her a bouquet is a lovely idea as well. She will likely have the baby in a carrier, so she’ll be able to have both.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

List her anyway…no one is going to audit your wedding and penalize you for inaccurate programs….

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would list her as a bridesmaid. Someone can explain during the introductions at the reception dinner “Its obvious why ____ wasn’t able to stand with the rest of the wedding party at the altar. Little  ( insert baby’s name ) still requires a lot of loving care and attention. Welcome (baby’s name) and (Mom’s name), we are so glad that you were able to be with us today.”

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

I think I’m switching careers….wedding auditor, people could bribe me with cake…lots and lots of cake….

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Definitely list her as a bridesmaid. Honorary would imply that she didn’t actually do anything.

 

People will get it, or not even notice.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@Crabbabs:  Seriously?  Oh man,  that would rock! After they get back from their honeymoon we have a sit down and I bust out a spreadsheet with all these deficiencies….additional fees charged for playing the Electric Slide, typo on the program and mismatched linens on a spectral scale….brides would fear me!

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