Post # 1
We are having a small reception immediately after our wedding ceremony where we are only inviting family members from both sides (besides the bridal party), and we have decided that instead of trying to invite our close friends (and alienating our other semi-close friends in the process – an etiquette nightmare) to the reception and paying $100+ a head, we’re going to have a casual catered affair after we come back from our honeymoon (sometime in early August) in our backyard.
It’s mean to be a celebratory “reception” of sorts for our friends, but my question is…. what do I call it when I send out invitations? It’s not going to be formal like the wedding reception is, but I still want there to be some semblance that it’s a reception for them to celebrate with us (so they all feel included and like we still wanted them to be a part of “our day”, even if they weren’t there on THE day).
Does anyone else have experience with organizing something like this and do you have any advice for me? Thanks in advance
Post # 3
My friends did something simllar and one set called it an open house, while the other called it a fete. (I can’t for the life of me get the accent to show up).
Post # 4
Do you need to give it a name (like “reception”)?
Could you just say on the invitation something like: “Come celebrate Jack & Jill’s recent wedding with us at our backyard BBQ!”
Or whatever the plans are. No need to say “The pleasure of your company is requested at our very official post honeymoon dinner” or whatever that would necessitate giving the event an official name.
If you feel compelled to call it something I would go with “reception” just because it’s your second one and it’s a week after the wedding doesn’t chagne that it is essentially a reception.
Post # 5
Just keep everything casual. You don’t want people to get upset if they think they might see a wedding and then don’t get to. Don’t use wedding words like reception. Party, celebration, etc
Post # 6
Everyone being invited to the party knows that we’re getting married on the 30th of June and knows why they weren’t going to the official wedding (it’s just going to be friends), and I wanted to lean away from calling it a “reception”, like you said which is a wedding word, but I think you have to call the event something…. I like the idea of just saying “please celebrate with us our recent wedding” because that’s what it essentially is.
As I mentioned, it’s not formal persay so it won’t have the wording of the reception but since it’s going to be catered, I want to still have invitations and RSVPs so I know how much to spend, etc.
Thanks for your input, bees!
Post # 7
We just referred to ours as our at-home reception. We knew our guests would be thrilled that we were finally able to get married, and wouldn’t look down on our reception just because it was a bit more casual than average.
Post # 8
my fiances family calls them “open houses” I had never heard of this, but in there religion this is what the grooms family pays for? i didnt ask for too many details but it sounds like what you are describing
Post # 10
an open house to me refers to ‘any one can come’
i like lexy’s reply. if it’s casual and fun you can call it; post-honeymoon party, post-wedding celebration. i would stay away from reception and stick to party or celebration.
Post # 11
Do you mean that some people invited to the ceremony won’t be invited to the reception?