Post # 1
So I have my Matron of Honor: older married sister, and my Maid of Honor: younger unmarried sister. Then a bunch of bridesmaids. But I need a title for my close female cousin…. I don’t want her to be just a regular bridesmaid because she is very close to me. Any suggestions?
Post # 3
@kay500n: I think having 3 maids of honor is excessive. If she is very close to you then she will understand that you chose your sisters for those roles and will just be happy to be a regular Bridesmaid or Best Man. She dosen’t need a cheesy made up title.
Post # 4
@sillysillybee: Agreed. One Maid/Matron of Honor – the rest are bridesmaids.
Post # 5
I think she is a bridesmaid. But maybe you can have her stand closest to you (behind your sisters).
Post # 6
There’s a reason that there’s no name for a ‘third maid of honor’.
Post # 7
She’s just a bridesmaid. If you want, like PP said, have her stand third in line following your sisters.
Post # 8
I have 3 maids of honour and 3 bridesmaids. I just called them all MOH’s and BM’s. I have 3 MOH’s because they are my closest friends and I was Maid/Matron of Honor in all 3 weddings and I just couldn’t choose one over the other. I don’t think its excessive because everyones situation is different. Honestly does a title really matter as long as you have your closest friends/family in the wedding party?
Post # 9
Sorry, but I agree with PP’s. There isn’y such think as a third Maid/Matron of Honor. She’s a Bridesmaid or Best Man. She’ll understand that you have two sisters that come first.
Post # 10
@kay500n: I think after a certain point, it becomes less honoring the maid of honor and more a diss to the bridesmaid(s) who aren’t maids of honor. Unless you have like 30 bridesmaids. I’d consider giving her an extra position of honor – for example, she could be a reader, or escort a treasured family member down the aisle.
Post # 11
@kay500n: You can call her Best Lady or Lady of Honor or Best Bitch or whatever the hell you want.
Post # 13
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
@kay500n: You can give them whatever title you want to. IT’S YOUR WEDDING! The first time I was married I had a matron of honor and a maid of honor, both cousins who are like sisters to me. It is a title of honor and you can choose to bestow it on whoever you want.
Post # 14
@Mez03: Honestly does a title really matter as long as you have your closest friends/family in the wedding party?
apparently it does ,because you have 3 MOH’s.
Post # 15
@Polygon: Good point. OP did say she has a Maid of Honor, Matron of Honor, “and a bunch of bridesmaids”, so I assume having one more “somthing of honor” isn’t going to mean there’s just one or two bridesmaids.
I had this issue. I have my sister & my best friend as Maid & Matron of Honor- because I can’t have my only sister NOT be my Maid/Matron of Honor but in reality I know my BFF is going to be the one hosting my shower and doing most of the supporting the bride type things, so she’s really the best choice for Maid/Matron of Honor. But then I only have one other bridesmaid so that seemed like a diss to her. So I’m actually planning on calling her my Best Lady (or something). I might also include my best male friend, in which case he’d be a ‘bridesman”.
Post # 16
Should I call them all BM’s will that make you feel better? My girls know that the title means nothing to me and that its more important for them to stand by my side and the only reason the title is even there is because I was a Maid/Matron of Honor in all 3 of their weddings so I thought it might be appropriate to return the title to them. All my girls know and will know again when I write my personal letters to them with their gifts that they all mean the world to me and whether you are a Maid/Matron of Honor or a Bridesmaid or Best Man it doesn’t take away from the fact they are my friends first and foremost. Other bees were being a little judgemental saying its “excessive” so I was trying to make the OP feel like its ok to have more than 2 people as Maid/Matron of Honor.