(Closed) What to call the FH’s parents after wedding

posted 11 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

FI’s mom sent me an email that stated she expected to be called mom after we got married. Um, rude? I don’t think so. I’m way to close to my mom to call another woman by that name! I’ll call her Ms. First name & his dad Mr. First name. Meanwhile, Fiance is already calling my mom Mom! So, I guess it just depends on your comfort level

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I just call them by their first names. Whatever, they are family now.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I have known Mikes family for 17 years, although he and I have only been together 2 1/2. I have called them Mom & Dad the whole time.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

i call them by their first names and same with my hubby – as an adult i would feel weird to be forced to call someone mom and dad when i dont have that emotional connection with them

 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I call my DH’s mom “Mom,” though I also call her by her first name or Mrs. sometimes.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

FH’s mom always wanted me to call her Mom. It’s never made me comfortable to do so, even when we were on good terms. I’m closer with FH’s dad and step-mom, but I still call them by their first name. FH is close with my parents and he also calls them by their first names.

I totally agree with lawgirl12, it’s all about what you’re comfortable doing. If it doesn’t feel right to you, then don’t do it.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think it depends on age to a degree.  In college, I carefully avoided calling my then-boyfriend’s parents anything at all so as not to have to decide what to say.  Now (10 years later) I started out calling my boyfriend’s mom by her first name and his dad/stepmom by their first names.  My bf calls his stepmom by her first name as well (I think they got married when he was in high school).  My boyfriend calls my mom sometimes by her first name and sometimes by mom, but my dad is always his first name.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

It really depends.. I dont mind calling my Future Mother-In-Law momma Jane or momma Donna [thats not really her name] rather than just mom. but I still dont know for sure what i will call her. But it would be weird and awkward to call her Mrs Herlastname or to just call her by her first name

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

i use first names – i think they wanted me to call them mom and dad – ill sign cards and stuff that way but when i address them directly i use their first names – i dunno mom and dad just sounds weird to me! haha

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I will still always call my in laws by their first names, even though we are close… It wouldn’t feel right calling them mom and dad.. but to each their own 🙂

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I just call them by their first names.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I have always called his parents mom and dad….but I have known them for 17 years and lived with them briefly in high school. So my situation is different. I have a lot of people that I call mom and dad. And my son has lots of honorary aunts and uncles. I always felt that family is what you make it, not what you were born into.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I call her by her first name and that wont change. My mom wants Kingy to call her “Milly” (for MIL) but we both think thats totally strange and its not going to happen.. she also thinks she’s going to be ‘Grandmum’ when we have kids since Kingy is Australian, even though we’ve explained to her about a billion times that nobody calls their Grandmas that… sometimes I think my mom is insane

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I still call them by their first names. Mother-In-Law and I aren’t close at all. I wouldn’t mind calling them Mom/Dad but DH and his Dad aren’t close and like I said Mother-In-Law isn’t too keen on me “taking her son away”. lol

DH will probably call my mom “Mom” at some point in the future, just because the relationship is better.

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