(Closed) What to discuss?

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Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Household chores, for sure.  

 

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@MrsN14:  Discuss not so fun topics like how it’ll work if you break up. Who put the most $$ into the house, etc. What happens if one of you dies? Will the insurance pay off the mortgage? And so on.

IMO it’s best for one person to do the bulk of the financial management. My SO used to be an accountant. I like to spend money. I let him manage our finances. I just am not interested in it. It’ll take some time for you to find something that works, but with time you’ll work it out. Make sure you each have your fun money that is not questioned. Like he can buy a video game and you can go for brunch. Purchases over X amount need to be discussed as couple so he doesn’t come home with a motorbike one day (this shit happens).

Congrats on getting the first house!! I am sure it’ll all go smoothly, especially since you pretty much lived together before 🙂

 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

+1 on talking about the possibilty of breaking up, not just about who physically gets the house but other things too. Like if it’s only in his name and you put money into renovations? Expensive furniture and equipment? Down payment? 

It isn’t fun, but it definitely helps a lot to have a plan! Enjoy!!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Talk about when it is okay to invite people over, when my friend first moved in with her husband he constantly invited his buddies over for dinner and their food bill went WAY up, she had to put a limit on it or they would have gone into the poor feeding all of his buddies.  Maybe if you feel the need set a limit for how often people can come over, if guests have be discussed before the invited, what days people aren’t allowed over, are their different rules for family? and so on. 

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