Post # 1
I dated now Darling Husband for almost 3.5 years by the time he got down on bended knee and proposed. Something I never expected happened…..I hated my e-ring. It was exaclty what I wanted. However the center stone was too small.
To set the record straight I never expected something extravigant. I was thinking 1/2 at the minimum. I got a 1/3 caret. Maybe Darling Husband set me up for failure because while waiting for a proposal he had told me he was going to get me a ‘boulder of a ring’ and it was going to be larger than his mom’s. I guess when your mom’s largest stone was 1/16 a 1/3 would seem huge.
Now I continued on with the engagement and marriage because it wasn’t about the ring it was about the man and he did make me happy. I just am devestated that after almost 5 years of having it I can’t look at it.
I have told Darling Husband I want another and would prefer to trade in this ring for something nicer. Darling Husband feels upset that as he puts it ‘failed me’ but feels that this is my engagement ring and I should wear it until the day I die. He has promised to buy an anniversary ring but he was thinking like 25th anniversary and I’m thinking like a 5th anniversary.
So what should I do?
1)Make myself happy by replacing it with something I love but upsetting Darling Husband
2)Continue to hate my ring but keep the peace with Darling Husband
Post # 3
Sorry I can’t help, because I think small rings are beautiful? I’d be happy with what you have, but I hope you find a solution!
Post # 4
What about getting a ring wrap to make your ring appear larger/give it a halo appearance?
Do you have money in the budget for the type of ring upgrade you want?
Post # 6
Do you have a job or a means of income? If so, upgrade it yourself.
You’re the one who has to wear it, he’ll get over it.
Post # 7
Is it possible to keep the same ring/setting but replace the smaller stone with a larger one?
Post # 8
This might be too expensive of an endeavor, but if the ring itself isn’t something you can incorporate into a new ring, perhaps you can turn it into a different piece of jewelry that would be sentimental. For example, could you have the diamond from your current ring put into a locket? And in the locket put his picture, or a picture of the two of you, or engrave something really sweet? That way, it might not seem as much like you’re discarding the ring with which he proposed to you?
Post # 9
Is getting both impossible? Your current ring can be a sentimental RHR & your upgrade worn on the left!
Post # 10
If your budget truly allows for an upgrade/ new ring; then I would discuss it openly and honestly with your husband.
Also, you could perhaps still wear it on your wedding ring finger, with the new ring. My mom wears her wedding band, engagement ring, and promise ring all together (each is a plain band, and her engagement & promise ring are solitares of different sizes) and she gets compliments ALL the time.
Post # 11
I’m a big believer in getting what you want to be happy. If you hate it- fix it. I probably would have changed it sooner, but I think a 5 year anniversary is the perfect time for it.Besides, ring shopping is SO much fun!
It’s a pet peeve of mine that guys get to pick out the ring and then are disappointed it’s not perfect.
Post # 12
Could you make it a 3 stone ring with your current diamond being a side stone?
Post # 13
I like the wrap & rhr suggestions! Those two options seem like nice compromises.
Some guys just don’t get the whole ring thing. If his mom had a really tiny ring, he probably honestly did think he was getting you a big stone. And I don’t think guys realize how friggin expensive diamonds are until they go out and buy one. I see that it seems more about how he said things that led you to have different expectations of the sort of ring you’d get. At the end of the day, it’s something he gave you out of love. I don’t know what your ring looks like, but I’ve seen 1/4 carat rings that were stunning; my mom has one that twinkles like a little star, and is beautiful!
Post # 14
Use the current stone as a side stone in a new 3 stone setting? You can find a matching 1/3 to your current, with a larger center.
Post # 15
My choice is what I choose to do, and if I’m causing no harm it should not bother you.Your choice is who you choose to be, and if your causing no harm then your alright with me.