(Closed) What to do: 3 men to walk me down the aisle and have first dance…

posted 11 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
1379 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I think all of your ideas are wonderful. If you want to have all three of them, then do it. My only thought is to make sure that the three songs you dance to are cut short!!!  By the time you and your husband have your first dance, there is the mother-son dance, there are toasts etc etc … your guests are going to get hungry!!  Just try to be sure to keep the three together to the length of an average song – 3-5 minutes.

Have fun!

Post # 4
756 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Would your Fiance consider having your brother as the Best Man, or would you consider having him as um, your "Man of Honor" instead of having a female MOH?  That’s an option if you feel uncomfortable having all three of them walk you down the aisle but still want your brother to have an important role. 

But it’s your wedding, and if you like the idea of having all three walk with you, then that’s what you should do.

As for the dance, I think it would be great if you danced with all three, but definitely only do a part of a song for each one, so that it’s not too long.  You are very lucky to have so many wonderful men in your life. 🙂

Post # 5
162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

my cousin-in-law had 2 "dads" and her mom walk her down the aisle. first, she had "dad #1" walk her a third of the way, then "dad #2" another third, then her mom walked her to the altar! the whole night everyone raved about how creative it was for her to do that.

and for the dancing part, she did a 3-part dance too. "dad #1" for part of one song, "dad #2" for part of another song,  then her mom for yet another song. it was truly a night everyone talks about to this day! not a dry eye in the room!

Post # 6
2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

You can absolutely dance with as many people as you want, although I think that after your actual first dance (with the groom) I would probably have everybody you want to dance with come out as part of a couple (your brother with maybe your mother; your dad with his wife or with one of the bridesmaids; leaving you with your stepdad).  If you combine the father/daughter and mother/son dances, your Fiance will be out there with his mom as well.  That way when you start switching off, there is someone else for your stepdad or whoever to dance with – you’re not leaving anyone just standing there in the middle of a song – it’s a little nicer that way.

As for walking you down the aisle, it sounds like you’re really talking about having your brother walk you down the aisle.  If you do that, why wouldn’t you just have your stepdad walk in with your mom, and your dad with his wife on their arms?  You generally have the parents and grandparents (with the exception of whoever might be walking you down the aisle) walk in first, to their own music – then the bridesmaids or bridal party if you’ve chosen not to have the groomsmen at the altar from the start – and then you.  If you’re actually going to walk in separately from your dad(s) it would seem reasonable to have them walk in with their wives. 

And definately to different music.  It would be more than a little different to have your dad and your stepdad walking down the aisle together to a traditional bridal march.  When that music starts, everybody turns to look for you.  You don’t want them all wondering what was up with the fathers and missing half your walk down the aisle.

Post # 7
178 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

The way you’ve described walking down the aisle with the three of them sounds good to me! Another option I’ve seen in "multiple dad" situations is where they walk you down together, one on each side. It’s not traditional to have a sibling walk you down the aisle unless your father is deceased or out of the picture all together, but when it comes down making the choice, I think it’s entirely up to the bride.

Perhaps instead of saying "both her fathers and I" you could consider having your brother say "we do". It is a common reply, as it insinuates that both the father(s) and mother(s) are presenting the bride. 

As far as the father daughter dance- you’ll be definately dancing with all three of these men at some point during the evening… your first dance is not with your dad(s)! It’s with your new husband! I see no reason you can’t have three special dances with the most important men in your life (besides FI!).

Good luck!


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