(Closed) What to do.

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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2063 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Caizn:  Have you talked to him about feeling cheated by a courthouse wedding. Some of the girls on here have posted beautiful photos of courthouse weddings that I never knew could exist and reflect on amazing honeymoons they wouldn’t otherwise have been able to afford. Honestly, if I’d thought this was an option, I would have seriously considered it before. Just a thought!

Post # 4
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9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Caizn:  I know the feeling well.  I chose to have a longer engagement so the two of us could save up money to put towards the wedding with the help of his parents.  Everyone was on board until so much shit went down.  

  • Fiance was laid off a week after he proposed.  Has not had a steady job since.
  • His parents had a huge fight in September and his father kicked us out of the house as a result.  I had to use all my wedding money for the apartment, move, etc.
  • I’m still the only person bringing in steady income (FI now started his own plumbing business!! YAY!) so I can’t save a dime to go towards the wedding.
  • His parents backed out of paying for the wedding, but then said we could have a small wedding at their house and they’ll front the bill.

It’s almost never ending.  It really is a true roller coaster of emotions.  I planned to have a courthouse wedding, go out to dinner with really close family, then leave for my honeymoon (Cruise to Bermuda – cost us $1800).  I figured I’d much rather have that even if everything that happened still makes me depressed.

I wish you the best of luck with whatever you choose to do.  A small backyard wedding won’t cost too much.  A courthouse wedding and a nice dinner would be amazing as well.  Then you can focus on a wonderful honeymoon to really enjoy.

Post # 5
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8369 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Have you talked to your Fiance about this? Maybe he would be alright with a courthouse wedding but thinks you want the big wedding? Communication is key.

You could look at other ways to cut the budget as well- a second hand or online dress, less guests, non-traditional wedding time, small destination wedding etc.

Post # 6
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9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Oh, and just to add:

Fiance was DETERMINED to still have a big wedding.  He was really upset because of things going downhill.  I told him that I would rather save that type of money for a house.  He agreed and that’s what got him on board.

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