- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2012
Fiance and I are getting married in December (Yay!)
We come from very different backgrounds, and here’s my dilemma:
I am getting married in the US, my family is in Canada. We were originally going to have a tiny wedding (15 people) with both immediate families. A week later my Mother-In-Law is throwing us a huge super fancy party at her country club. There has been scheduling conflicts with super important guests (my sister -MOH) for the tiny wedding, so we had to push it out to the same weekend as the party.
This is how the fancy party became the official reception.
Now, the actual dilema I am having:
His family is super wealthy, educated, etc. (you get the picture) and so are all their friends coming to the party and most everybody. All speak english (obviously).
My family does not speak English (speak only French) and is a minimum-wage (nothing wrong with that) and none have HS diploma, from small town, etc.
I love my family so much. And I love FI’s family so much as well. They have been the most generous people ever. I am afraid that my parents and sister will feel weird in all this crazy party (with all these “fancy” people). I mean it is supposed to be their daughter’s wedding, yet I’m afraid they’ll feel completely outnumbered… Am I weird for feeling this way?
And my dad is very proud, and I think it makes him VERY sad that he can’t afford things like that for me.. While this is the least of my worries and I couldn’t care less, I know that deep down he feels “less successful” (I know I HATE even writing those words…).
Bassically I don’t want them to feel like “just guests” to their daughter’s wedding…
(note my English isn’t perfect either, and sometimes my written communications come across the wrong way: the goal of this post is to make it easier on my family)