(Closed) What to do?

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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2330 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I personally think it’s absolutely appalling that your FIL made this request. It’s really none of his business, at all.

If you’re HUSBAND wanted to bring the subject up with you, that’s one thing. I personally am not open to signing any kind of pre/post- nup agreements (nor would my FI be interested in having one drawn up for any reason), but I’d be way less upset about discussing it if my FI brought it up. It’s none of his father’s business in the least.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

What does your husband say about it? I think it is pretty appalling to ask you to sign a post nup. Seriously! If you stay together, wouldn’t the  oneh be split between you anyway? Does he think you are breaking up? If my FIL made such a request of me, I would be upset.

Post # 5
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126 posts
Blushing bee

Did your husband know about this, or was he as surprised as you were? It sounds like a very awkward situation, the inheritance is for your husband, not your FIL. Why is he contacting lawyers, etc?

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@rachelmichelle:  THIS!

@aliu19:  Talk to your DH.  His dad’s actions are WAY overstepping boundaries.  It is none of his business.  I’m not a fan of prenupts, but a postnupt is….really really insulting.  ESPECIALLY as it wasn’t your DH who brought this up.  There are very specific situations where I think that this would be acceptable, but they still involve your DH being the one to talk to you…not your FIL.  This really REALLY has nothing to do with him.

This may be over-reacting, but after talking to your DH, I might consider going to see a lawyer yourself.  You obviously shouldn’t sign anything without having your own lawyer look at the documents.  You could also see the lawyer to find out what your rights are with regards to the inheritance and to speak with them about what your FIL is up to.  Basically, you want to cover your butt here.  

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

Wow, tell him to keep the money in a separate account but you aren’t signing anything. And honestly, postnups don’t usually hold up in court. Don’t sign anything…. What is he going to do…? Divorce you? It is funny how money can show someone’s real colors.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

Edit, I see this is your FIL. Don’t sign anything and ignore them. This is between you and your husband.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I would be upset. It’s not your FIL’s money if your aunt is willing it to your husband. If my husband wanted a post-nup, then he would have to come to me and discuss it privately. I’m not sure how I would respond, though I’m not interested that much in money, so I’d probably be cool with signing it.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

If this were me I would be livid. It’s none of FIL’s business and it’s insulting. Something like this is between you and your husband and should be discussed privately.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree with all the other posts that bringing this up is ridiculous and completely out of bounds. *However*, as an aside, in most states inheritances are considered to be the sole property of the person who inherits *if* the money is kept in a completely separate account. If you mingle the money, it becomes community property, but if you keep it in your own name in its own account, your spouse does not have any rights over it. I would consult a lawyer in my own state if I were inheriting a large sum of money after I was married and had any questions.

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