Post # 1
I have a bridesmaid whose boyfriend (who is my fiance’s uncle) is causing major problems in my planning process because he has caused her to be late to appointments and is flipping out about her having to pay for her dress and shoes. I don’t know what to do!!! I love her to death and I really want her in my wedding but I need to make sure she’s going to be there and can get the dress ordered on time and everything!!! WHAT DO I DO???
Post # 3
I think you need to talk to her personally friend to friend and ask her if this is something she can do! Being a Bridesmaid or Best Man has its responsibilities, but financial situations are different for everyone. Just be understanding if is can or can’t, you’d hate for your relationship with her to go bad because of all this!
Post # 4
If she is not financially stable, why not offer to help her pay for the dress? Then you know it will be done on time. On the other side of that, he could be flipping out to try and get you to pay for it.
I agree that you should sit down and have a talk with her. Give her a graceful exit if she needs one and don’t guilt her if she really does need to drop out.
Post # 5
Can you offer to help her out financially (even if it’s just a little bit?) She’s probably under a lot of pressure from her boyfriend and it might ease some of her stress, and essentially yours as well, if she doesn’t have him nagging her all the time about the cost of the wedding.
Post # 6
I’m a little confused honestly – why would her boyfriend be controlling her like this? I think you should talk to her about the all-in costs of the wedding, what you can contribute, if anything (I think this is nice but not required at all), and whether she can do it. Then it’s up to her to figure it out with her boyfriend. If Fiance is close to his uncle he could try talking to him about it, but inserting yourself between them might be messy.
Post # 7
Talk to her – if she is a good friend she should understand your concerns. Her boyf sounds really contolling x