(Closed) What to do?

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

How old is the kid?  Maybe you could do an extra little birthday cake or something…?

 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

We had our wedding just a day or two away from my husband’s parent’s anniversary.  We decided to honor them by making an announcement and playing their wedding song.  They danced and were so thrilled to have their special day recognized.  It didn’t take away from Our day at all and it was nice to help make someone else feel special.

I think it might be nice to just make an announcement of his B-Day and maybe have everyone join in in song.  Then maybe have a small cake with candles for him to blow out.  It will still be YOUR big day, but you’ll also be able to make a little guy happy.  I don’t think it takes much to make someone feel special.  Its the little things.  

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

What about after you guys leave, if the family stays for a little while and has cake for his son?

That’s kind of tough, because it could get “birthday party” kinda fast.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Wow. That takes a lot of nerve to make a comment like that! It’s your wedding not the kid’s birthday party! Maybe ask your bakery for an extra cupcake for him and stick and candle in it or something, but I wouldn’t make a charade out of the whole thing.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

Um…14 year old boys don’t usually LIKE attention like that.  Why doesn’t he just postpone celebrating it until the next day??  He’ll have birthdays for the rest of his life, you only get ONE wedding day!  It’s not like an anniversary party or something!  I’d tell Fiance to tell his brother that’s NOT happening…

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

14?!  OMG, I thought you were talking about a small child that would throw a tantrum if his bday wasn’t recognized.

Uh, tell your Future Brother-In-Law it’s not happening.  He can celebrate the day before or after.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Can you give a quick “shout out” to him while giving a thank you speech or something like that?

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Even if you did something for his birthday, I think it’ll be pretty clear that it’s still a wedding, based on the beautiful woman parading around in the fancy white dress, not to mention all the wedding related decorations and stuff. Smile

It would come across as extremely gracious and thoughtful if you guys acknowledged his birthday. A small/personal cake, or special cupcake with a candle in it, along with a chorus of “Happy Birthday” would take up at most 5 minutes of your wedding day. Your nephew would feel special that he was acknowledged, your Future Brother-In-Law would be grateful that you did that (or at least he should be!), and your guests would think it extra sweet of you guys to do that. And then, it’d be right back to the wedding festivities.

As for when to do it, perhaps later on in the evening. Personally, I’d schedule it for after the cake cutting. While everyone is waiting for the caked to be sliced and served, whip out a little cupcake or something for him, and make an announcement. Say something like “We’re honored to have our nephew, Timmy, here with us today on his 14th birthday! We’d love it if all of our wedding guests would join in on singing ‘Happy Birthday’ to him!”

I’ve actually been to a couple of weddings where this has been done, and it’s always turned out great. (And once it’s over, people went right back to wedding-mode).

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I like the idea of a quick mention in a speech, or to do something during the rehersal dinner. My Bridesmaid or Best Man is turning 30 the day before my wedding, so I’d like to celebrate that after the rehersal dinner, with a cake and stuff.

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I have to agree with MightySapphire… if I was 14 and at a wedding I would be absolutely moritified to have everyone singing happy birthday to me.  I would probably not do anything for his birthday.  Maybe a candle in a cupcake but I wouldn’t make an announcement for everyone to hear….

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

How rude. 

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Cupcake with a candle, sing happy birthday at some later point in the evening, and that’s enough. Done.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

14?!  Having a cake or saying something would probably be embarassing, not sweet and endearing.   Get him a present – something he’d really like.

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