(Closed) What to do about a breakfast we can't afford?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What should we do

    1 - Cancel the breakfast

    2 - Golden Corral and everyone pay for themselves - I'll tell you how to word it in a comment below!

    3 - Host a basic continental breakfast in the backyard

  • Post # 33
    115 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    #3 Go all the way with a continental breakfast.  Croissants, assorted jams and fresh fruit can be purchased at Costco or some other club warehouse very inexpensively.  I don’t think anyone expects or should expect a full on bacon, pancake and eggs breakfast!

    Post # 34
    2108 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    Definitely go with option 3! Just try to have as much of it set up before your wedding so you aren’t stressed out after the long night and enjoy! 🙂

    Post # 35
    1729 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

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    @JenGirl:  I’m glad we could help! You got this!

    Post # 36
    3680 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Go with number three,  but change the wording on the invitation from brunch to breakfast.  Brunch implies more lunch-type food being included.

    Post # 37
    2178 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    if you want Something Simple But Hot Get a waffle iron…ppl can make their own or assign a 10yo cousin to be the ‘chef’

    Post # 38
    2297 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    so glad you decided on #3 it will be great! you could do a basket of bagels, muffins and croissants, some good quality jams, a cream cheese spread…i’d also make a big fruit salad, have a big dish of yogurt and granola for on top so people can make a breakfast parfait. good coffee and some juices and you’re all set! if you wanted, you could easily make a few batches of cookies and brownies and freeze them a month before, thaw them in the fridge a day or two before the wedding and then you’ll have something sweet too!


    Post # 39
    384 posts
    Helper bee

    Id go with option 3, have u thought about hiring high schoolers or friends of the family not invited to make pancakes and eggs and all that stuff? pay them at a cheaper price and supply the food.

    Post # 40
    267 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @JenGirl:  if the wording is only on your save the date cards, you can always cancel it.  just tell people that you thought better of it and you really think you’ll be too tired to host another gathering. no one will be offended–must people don’t expect a welcome dinner or a farewell anything. remember, this is YOUR wedding. you chose to have a brunch because you wanted to spend the time.  while you may still want to, you certainly don’t have to.  i would cancel.

    BUT if you don’t, go with three. continental is not difficult but time consuming for newlyweds and their parents! and also keep in mind, that while it is the least expensive of the three, it still isn’t free. you said you’re largely paying for the wedding as a couple and Fiance is now unemployed. i think you have bigger fish to fry, personally.

    Post # 41
    700 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think it would be best to have the breakfast at Golden Corral and have people pay for themselves. With your invitations, if you have any inserts – an a reception insert, which used to be more common but doesn’t seem to be anymore – just mention that everyone is welcome and that they’ll have to pay. The card could have a timeline of the whole weekend – like the Save-The-Date Cards but with more information. So, the invitation would have the ceremony information, and this card would have everything else. I’m thinking…


    Welcome Dinner: Saturday, September 1

    Hosted by Mr. Father-of-Bride at 1234 West Street

    6PM: BBQ, coleslaw, dessert, drinks, and dancing


    Wedding Reception for Bride and Groom: Sunday, September 2

    Reception under the tent at Wedding-Reception-Site, 1234 South Street

    6PM: Buffet Dinner with music by DJ Whoever


    Farewell Breakfast: Monday, September 3

    Say your goodbyes at Golden Corral, 1234 North Street

    10AM: Buffet and plated options range from $10-$20


    Just an idea! My DH was laid off yesterday, so I feel you.


    Post # 42
    4044 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @JenGirl:  Option 3, borrow some toaster or toaster ovens so people can make toast or warm their bagels, get individual cream cheese, muffins, maybe yogurt, fruit, etc from Costco or someplace similar.

    Post # 43
    3696 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

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    @JenGirl:  No job is still not ideal, but glad to hear things are looking up a little for your guy.

    And I’m sure your dad will come around.  Seriously, tossing bagels and cream cheese on a table is so much easier than trying to round up a bunch of people to a restaurant at the same time and stay there until everyone is done, try to get the check right… I’d SO much rather just relax in my back yard, even if it took an hour of setting out plates of food and an hour of tossing paper plates in the end.  Especially breakfast after a good party (which of course your wedding will be), not everyone will be up and at ’em at the same time.

    Post # 44
    2902 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Isn’t 3 exactly what you were planning on doing anyway? I’m a little bit confused. Is it because you are no longer serving things like eggs & bacon?

    I think bagles & cream cheese + pastries etc is breakfast so I would be totally happy with the backyard option 🙂

    Post # 45
    11231 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

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    @MrsTVLover:  Agreed.

    I just don’t think this is a “wedding event.” Like, we’re planning on meeting our bridal party the morning of for breakfast–we are not paying for it.

    Post # 46
    155 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    i say go with Option #3. Don’t bother with hot foods. Honestly that’s just going to be a hassle and a possible health risk (in terms of proper storage and maintain correct heat etc). Just get bagels(and toppings), muffins, donuts, fresh fruit, coffee, and orange juice and you are all set.


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