What to do about “best friend”?

posted 2 months ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper

Do you know what’s going on in her life? Could she be dealing with some stressful issues that she doesn’t feel comfortable injecting into (or comparing to) your newlywed happiness?

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

What beethree said! She sounded like she’s going through something but still cared enough about you to not want to ruin the friendship. I would check on her instead of expecting her to call to congratulate you. But you know her more than we do!

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

Get in touch. She’s probably embarrassed or feels awkward for missing. Don’t ruin a friendship over it.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper

beecee :  This is probably a case of each of you thinking the other is upset with you. She probably thinks you are upset that she wasn’t able to make your wedding and this is why you haven’t contacted her.

I guess you have to work out if you value the friendship or not. She has always been flakey with communication so it is a bit unfair to expect her to change her personality. Have you ever discussed with her your feelings over the flakey communication?

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Have you not tried to contact her at all either? She probably thinks you are mad at her and is waiting for you to reach out. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

it sucks you cant have the support you normally get from your friend.

send mer a smiley face saying you miss her and see what happens. take it slow she prob wants to give you space

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I would just reach out to you.  It is likely that you are both thinking “she hasn’t contacted me in a month”.  In good friendships sometimes you have to put yourself out there and be the one to break first.  She probably feels really awkward that she couldn’t attend the wedding and isn’t quite sure what to say. 

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