(Closed) What to do about bridesmaids?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Since you asked “What would you do”… I would just have uneven sides.  In fact, we do have uneven sides.  I know you don’t want to do that, but if it were me, and I wanted to avoid having hurt feelings, I’d just not ask either of them :/

Post # 4
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5889 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

yeah, it seems like you aren’t desperate to have either girl, and are kind of reaching for a fifth.  i would leave your side as is and have Fiance add the 5th groomsman.  He can always have his best man stand up with him at the front of the ceremony while the remaining groomsmen proceed in with the bridesmaids.

Post # 5
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4887 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I wouldn’t include anyone I wasn’t 100% sure of just to fill a spot.  I have 4 and he has 5… seriously there’s nothing wrong with having uneven sides!

Post # 6
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5800 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Who are you closer to? The fact that you’re picking based on age and who will be more into it makes me think you should just have uneven sides or gives FIs friend something else to do.

Post # 7
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664 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Or you could ask them both and have 6 to his 5.

Post # 8
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95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Since you are closer to M, ask her.  I would use the reasoning as she is older than 21, which is legal drinking age so she can attend bachelorette party. 

Or straight up ask M if she would be interested.  I had a similar situation.  I have two sisters, one of which I knew she wanted to be in my wedding.  Very girly girl and loves to party.  My other sister is older, more reserved, and not much of a dressing up kinda girl.  Inside I just knew she would not be too interested in being in the bridal party.  But she is my sister so I didn’t want to totally assume and leave her out and not ask.  So I just asked her if she would be interested and she nicely declined.  Her daughter is a Bridesmaid or Best Man so she just preferred her to be in it.

Good luck!

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