Post # 1
My wedding is scheduled for Nov. 7th of this year. Initially we thought we’d be okay despite COVID, but now things seem to be getting worse and I don’t think it’s going to happen. We had a large 100 guest wedding planned. Save the Dates were sent out, but formal invitations have not been.
At this point we are looking at canceling the wedding we had planned and instead opting for a smaller elopement with immediate family only (less than 20 people) and hopefully do a party later on when the world calms down.
I am trying to figure out how to notify guests…since we aren’t really postponing (since we are still planning on getting married), and we aren’t exactly canceling either…I don’t know what to say.
Does anyone have any suggestions on how to tell our guests what’s going on?
Post # 2
Everyone is aware of what is currently going on in the world. Just say “Due to COVID-19 and worries about everyone’s health and safety we will no longer be holding our wedding as previously planned and will be married in a small private ceremony instead”
Post # 3
Maybe something like “Out of respect for the health and wellness of our guests, we have made the difficult decision to postpone our wedding reception in favor of a private ceremony with immediate family on Nov XX. We hope to see you all soon.”
Post # 4
My cousin just postponed her wedding. She and her mom and the groom and his family divided up the guest list and called everyone. The VM I got was “postponed due to COVID 19”. Thats all folks need to know right now.
Post # 5
“We hope to be able to have a celebration with you some time in the future once it’s safe to do so”
You may also find after you’re officially married, you have other priorities and don’t want to do the large party. But you can mention it if you’d like to let guests know it could still be a possibility.
Post # 6
Can your mother handle your side of the family, your Mother-In-Law handle the groom’s side of the family, and you and your fiance split friends?
I really don’t think anyone will be wildly taken off guard that the wedding is being postponed. As far as verbiage, just keep it short and sweet.
“Due to Covid19, we have opted to postpone our wedding. We will instead be marrying in a private ceremony on _____. The health and safety of our friends and family is of the utmost importance to us. We hope to celebrate with you all next year!”
Post # 7
I think you’re doing the smart thing and you have more options with your vendors this far out. I can’t imagine many parts of the US being able to accommodate fall/winter weddings I assume all the way through flu season next year.
An email is sufficient and I would not not promise a future celebration either. Cross that bridge when you get there but you will probably realize you’re married already and don’t need to spend $10k, $40k, etc on a party 6-12+ months later.
Send a lovely marriage announcement card with a pic from your wedding day.
Post # 8
We’ve literally just had an email through about a wedding we got a save the date for. It was supposed to be in October.
theyve just said they plan to marry privately on the date and will have a celebration later. Not at all unexpected
Post # 9
It’s hard because there’s no right answers in any of this. On one hand, you kind of want to wait and see what happens but on the other hand, I really don’t want to risk any of my guests’ health.
I think it’s best just to give up on it. Which of course is disappointing, but ultimately it’s what needs to be done.
I think the simple “marry privately with a celebration later” is a really good route to take. Thanks for your advice! And I’m sorry for the October couple’s cancellation as well.