- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
My parents got divorced when I was just a baby. He left my mom with a baby (me) for some other woman. As I have gotten older, I have come to realize more and more things about the divorce and it is just hurtful what he did to my mom and, in the end, me. I have always lived with my mom and would go to my dads house every other weekend. I didn’t see him that much, so naturally I became closer to my mom. My mom practically raised me on my own and she is pretty much my best friend.
My dad is still coming to the wedding. We live in the same town and still have contact. He is very hesitant on assisting with paying for the wedding. He doesn’t even want us to really have a wedding (he recomended eloping, knowing that I have an image of my perfect dream wedding already in my head). My mom has paid for the majority of my expenses my whole life, except for the small child support check each month.
I feel more comfortable for my mom to walk me down the aisle and “give me away” since she was the one with full custody over me my whole life and the one that raised me. Traditionally, it’s supposed to be the father doing that but i just would rather have my mom. What should I do?? It’s not like my dad won’t be at the wedding, he would be standing right there watching my mom do the “traditionally his job”. Also, his side of the family will be at the wedding so what will they think when they see their brother/son/uncle not giving his daughter away?? What do you think I should do?
Also for the first dance, I just see the whole father-daughter dance being the most awkward time of my life and I’d rather spend that emotional, sweet time with my mom and dance with her. Again, would that be weird, especially with my dad right there?
Please, I would appreciate your honest opinons. Thank you!!
Also, Fiance wants a mother/son dance, so not doing a bride dance may be weird if the groom gets a dance with a parent.