(Closed) What to do about extremely early gifts?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

When I was in this situation, I just sent the thank-you card immediately. For one thing, it gets one out of the way so you don’t have to worry about it when you have 100 to write. For another, I feel like if people send you a present, they don’t mind if you open in right away.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Not sure if I completely understand. Just send a basic thank you note right now thanking her for the gifts.

Post # 5
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5786 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Send a Thank You card now.

If she attends the shower/wedding you can send another thank you card with those batches.

Post # 6
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505 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would send a formal thank you card now. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

I sent a thank you email and followed up with a thank you card. I thanked immediately so that the giver knew I received the gift– not knowing is the worst!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Agree with the PPs. I’ve just been dropping TYs in the mail as gifts or checks come in (and cashing them promptly so I don’t mess w/ people’s balances). If she comes to the showers/events, you can always send a follow up Thank You, but I’d get them out right away.

PS- I found that it’s helpful, especially w/ these early gifts, to have a little spreadsheet with the person’s name, the gift, when you recieved it, when you wrote/sent a thank you, and if/when you cashed check gifts. 

ETA- Yeah, we have ‘wedding TYs’ but for these extra early gifts, we just got a 50 pack of the cuter but reasonable cards at Target. 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

@PeachBee:  

Sent the handwritten thank you note immediately.

Never email thank you’s.

Does it really matter if they were intended for the shower or the wedding?

I’d take the gifts to my shower to display them, By The Way.

Post # 11
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Send a formal, handwritten thank-you as soon as possible.

Any gifts that we received before the wedding got a cute thank-you card; all gifts received at the wedding and after got our wedding-photo thank-you card.

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I am glad to see this post because, without it, I think I would have made an etiquette faux-pas – I haven’t received any early gifts yet but, like the OP, I am registered at a store that allows online gift purchases. I have several Out of Town guests that will likely use this option and I was planning to wait until right before/after the relevant wedding event (e.g., shower, wedding day) to pick gifts up if they were purchased early. I just figured it was bad etiquette to pick up and open a gift before it’s intended event. I guess it is the opposite though and it is in poor taste to not thank someone immediatelly! 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

That’s so sweet of her…send her a personal e mail thank you now or soemthing and a formal thank you card later on.

Post # 15
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

@Calla85:  I didn’t have to physically pick up any of my gifts — they were all delivered. But I think the same idea still applies. 🙂

Post # 16
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would send a paper thank you immediately.  It’s easier to get it done now because they will pile up later and you might forget!

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