- Gypsy Girl
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2008
My husband and I were married in April of 2008.
Background: He is from a different country and we met while working outside of the US. We came home in March, one month before the wedding, and he met everyone for the first time. Also, his family (who speaks very little English) came for three weeks during that time. My family and friends really pitched in and helped us have a beautiful ceremony and they were so generous with their time and gifts. We went on a short honeymoon, and when we got back, I started on the thank you notes. We shipped out again in May, just a couple weeks after the honeymoon.
I did send thank you notes to the wedding party and participants, to some of the people from our shower, and to the people from my husband’s country that gave us gifts when we visited there, but there were still more than half that I didn’t finish.
When we left, I carried a list with me of the gifts we received and who gave them to us, but I got overwhelmed with the travel and never finished writing the notes.
Fast-forward to now…it has been over two years since the wedding. We are still working out of the country and have only been home to visit a couple of times since we got married. Our beautiful gifts are still in storage and we have not gotten to “set up house” there yet.
And, I still am haunted with guilt that I didn’t finish writing and sending thank you notes. It is still very fresh to me, but in reality, so much time has passed. Every time I have sat down to try to finish them, I froze because
a) I didn’t know what to say that wouldn’t just sound like a terrible excuse for my unforgivable tardiness, and
b) besides the gifts of money, we haven’t even gotten to use the other gifts, so I couldn’t say that “we have really been enjoying using their gift.”
I’m just thankful for everything that we will someday get to use and enjoy, and mostly for the love and support that everyone showed us on our special day.
Maybe they have forgotten about it or won’t sweat it because they are wonderful people, but it just kills me to think that I offended someone or that they would remember me as “the one wedding gift they never were thanked for.”
So, I would like to still send them out. Is it too late? How can I apologize or try to explain without making it worse? Is there any way to rectify such an embarrassingly bad breach of etiquette? I’m at a loss for ideas. Help?