Post # 1
My bachelorette party was last night and for the most part, I had a really nice time. There were 6 girls and we went for a great dinner, then out for a few more drinks at a some local bars. I thought that everybody was having a good time until we got to the bar when one of my frinds pulled out her phone and spent the next hour text messaging to somebody. She didn’t participate in the conversation amongst the other girls and came off like a sullen teenager. Then, we moved on to another bar and she saw somebody that she knows and left the party to join the other group of friends. That was the last we saw of her.
It couldn’t have been more obvious that this person didn’t care to be at the party and, frankly, I would have rather she stayed home than act so rude. So my question is: do I say something to her about what happened (ie- that I was disappointed by her behavior)? I’ve asked her in the past what’s been bothering her lately, hoping that we could have a really honest discussion about it, to no avail. I’ve posted more about this friend in another thread:
Post # 3
I’m sorry, I don’t know what to say! Also having friend troubles.
Post # 4
It was rude of your friend, but I would just let it go. What she does with herself is really not your business or your concern, even if she was being incredibly rude. You just have to worry about yourself and that you had a good time and don’t let her attitude drag you down.
Post # 5
Maybe she was jealous or sad (because of the situation of her own broken engagement, so recently)?
I wouldn’t say something to her. I would just let it go, but keep in mind that she’s shown you who she is, and now you know where your friendship stands (not her priority) so you can scale your friendship back to an appropriate level.
Post # 6
It soundsl ike she going through a tough time. It probably not about you, I would talk to her later and say she hurt your feelings. Then let it go.
Post # 8
I think it is time for you to step up as a friend, and ask her if everything is ok?
Forget your hurt feelings about your bachelorette party, becusae something was obviously not ok with her. Find out what that was, and help her through it.
Post # 10
Thanks for the comments everybody. I decided that I couldn’t bite my tounge about this, especially considering the recent interactions (or lack thereof) with this friend. So, I called her today and asked her what was going on with her last night and why she hasn’t returned my calls for the past 6 months. She replied that she doesn’t feel that we have anything in common anymore and she was upset that we didn’t want to do shots and pick up men. That’s just not who I am. I was drinking, socializing and having a good time, but I definately didn’t feel like I needed to drink to the point of being sick or make out with a stranger. So ultimately, I think I agree with her that we don’t have much in common at this time. I still think it’s rotten that she decided to act out at my party rather than just excuse herself from the evening.