(Closed) What to do about gifts?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
47208 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

katesand2 :  I would do exactly as you suggested, stand and “…thank all the guests for their thoughtful and generous gifts. I would also like to extend thanks to _ for _, _ for __, _ for _. These gifts were delivered prior to the shower. I am so glad you were able to attend today, so I am able to thank you in person.”

Then follow up with an individual chat with each of those guests, and of course, a thank-you note. You can even get a head start on your thank-you notes by writing and mailing them now. Besides giving you a head start, it lets the sender know that their gift was safely delivered.

You do have to be a little sensitive in your choice of wording so you don’t make it sound like the other guests should have had heir gifts delivered to your home too.

Post # 4
257 posts
Helper bee

Any gifts that arrived before my shower were brought to the shower to be opened. But I’m only about 30 minutes from where the shower was so the logistics of getting them to my mom’s place wasn’t a big deal. That being said, the guests who did ship theirs in advance were happily surprised that I got to open the gifts in front of them. For example, my cousin did a themed gift, so she shipped me a stainless steel breadbox and at the shower gave me a bread knife and a bread making cookbook. Having the breadbox there really pulled the whole gift together!

If the guests are likely to be at the shower and you CAN bring the gifts (provided they’re not too heavy or large) I’m sure they would appreciate being able to see you open it at the shower. If not, perhaps you could take some pictures of the gifts and bring the card or message they sent with you and pass it around at the shower. I made it a point at both of my showers to talk about each gift and how it would be used so that people knew they were getting a gift that would be useful!

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