Post # 1
Okay, so I am my sisters Maid/Matron of Honor and her wedding is in early December. There are 5 total in her wedding party, one other Maid/Matron of Honor. Well, the other Maid/Matron of Honor and I have been organizing the Bach party and the shower with some help from two of the Bmaids, but there is one who has never responded to our emails/texts/calls. She did not come to the Bach party two weekends ago, nor did she give any kind of explanation. She still hasn’t ordered her dress, the deadline was almost a month ago.
My sister seems pretty calm about it, just kind of shrugs her shoulders, but I don’t know what to do! I don’t think it’s okay for this girl to just last minute buy her dress and show up (which she will probably do), I am fiercely protective of my sister and don’t want anyone walking all over her! My sister is worried about damaging their longterm friendship, which I understand to an extent, but I think this girl is too selfish to deserve my sisters friendship.
What would you ladies do? I know other people have dealt with MIA Bmaids..
Post # 3
Hmmmm. I think unless you are seeing something you sister is not, you need to let her take the lead on this.
It’s probably smart to have plan b and always plan around this girl, so that you can be a good supportive Maid/Matron of Honor (and have everything under control). Other than that though, you need to let your sister handle it. The last thing she needs is more drama. Maybe you could say that you are willing to talk to the miussing girl if she wants you to. Just leave the door open and handle what needs to be handled. It isn’t fair, but in the long run your siser will appreciate you having her back.
Post # 4
At the end of the day, the missing Bridesmaid or Best Man will be the one with regrets. I applaud your sister for not making a fret about it. As for you, I would just be a supportive sister/MOH because when it comes closer to the wedding day, she might need you to help problem shoot for her.
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
That’s so weird, but I think it’s up to your sister whether to be angry about it or not. And since she isn’t, I don’t think it’s wise to bring it up to her much.