What to do about missed invitations?

posted 3 years ago in Guests
  • poll: What should I do?
    Send invite with May RSVP date with a note : (5 votes)
    63 %
    Order new RSVP cards : (0 votes)
    Other, please explain! : (3 votes)
    38 %
  • Post # 2
    7642 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    3. Phone them ASAP (so that they know they’re invited and what the details are) and tell them the truth (FI’s dad made a mistake).

    Then follow option 1 (existing invitations with a note).

    Post # 5
    2714 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

    I think that’s fine – I wouldn’t be offended if I received that.

    Post # 6
    3876 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    If you don’t personally care if they come I’d probably tell your Future Father-In-Law that it’s too late and he had his chance.

    Post # 7
    12295 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    lunafreya :  If this really was an honest mistake I would preface your note with an profusely apologetic phone call. If you are that uncomfortable, then your Future Father-In-Law can take the blame for the mishap, and let the person know you’ll be sending out the invitation immediately. Don’t reprint. 

    But if Future Father-In-Law just added people at the last minute because there was room for them, that is B listing, which is unacceptable. Or should be. 

    Post # 8
    47209 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think they are going to feel like B listers no matter what you do. I see this as FFIL’s problem.

    I would tell Future Father-In-Law to give them a phone call and a verbal invitation if he really wants them to be invited. You can follow up with a printed invitation.


    Post # 9
    6667 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2015

    lunafreya :  You don’t know them and you’ve already sent out invitations?  Just don’t invite them – as above, tell your father in law it’s simply too late (or have your fiance do it, actually).  Better than either of the other options if you ask me.

    Post # 10
    100 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    I agree with pp, if you don’t really know them and you’ve already sent out your invitations then I would just move on.  

    Post # 11
    527 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    Don’t bother sending them an invite. Either your Future Father-In-Law can ring and tell them what happened (invite them verbally) or you can tell Future Father-In-Law it’s too late to send out invitations now and not worry about it.

    Post # 13
    228 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    I think the way it was handled was best. I would definitely understand and appreciate the note!

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