Post # 1
So my FI’s dad helped finalized his side of the families guest list a couple months ago for us. He came over and gave us names and addrsses and we sent out our invitations with a May 23rd RSVP date. Now his dad is calling us saying that he missed a couple of people! Ugh, well with our RSVP date being this coming Tuesday I just dont know what to do. I think I have two options here.
1.Send an invite to these people with a note apolgizing for the late invitation and coming up with some type of excuse like we put the wrong address and got sent back to us or something.
2. I can get the etsy seller where I got my invites from to change the RSVP date for me to June 9th (wedding is June 23) and then get a rush order on them.
I just dont want people to think we had a B list because we didnt, or we forgot about them.
Post # 2
3. Phone them ASAP (so that they know they’re invited and what the details are) and tell them the truth (FI’s dad made a mistake).
Then follow option 1 (existing invitations with a note).
Post # 3
aussiemum1248 : I suggested this to Fiance when I heard the news but he doesnt really know these people. Its an awkward situation because He hasnt seen a lot of his relatives from his dads side since he was a child due to his parents divorce and his dad not being around much.
Post # 4
If we do send an invite with a note it is acceptable to write something like:
‘Dear So and So,
Please accept our sincere apology for the late invitation as we were not provided with the correct address. We hope to see you at the wedding. Please let us know by June 9th.”
If not, then what do you think is appropriate?
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
I think that’s fine – I wouldn’t be offended if I received that.
Post # 6
If you don’t personally care if they come I’d probably tell your Future Father-In-Law that it’s too late and he had his chance.
Post # 7
lunafreya : If this really was an honest mistake I would preface your note with an profusely apologetic phone call. If you are that uncomfortable, then your Future Father-In-Law can take the blame for the mishap, and let the person know you’ll be sending out the invitation immediately. Don’t reprint.
But if Future Father-In-Law just added people at the last minute because there was room for them, that is B listing, which is unacceptable. Or should be.
Post # 8
I think they are going to feel like B listers no matter what you do. I see this as FFIL’s problem.
I would tell Future Father-In-Law to give them a phone call and a verbal invitation if he really wants them to be invited. You can follow up with a printed invitation.
Post # 9
lunafreya : You don’t know them and you’ve already sent out invitations? Just don’t invite them – as above, tell your father in law it’s simply too late (or have your fiance do it, actually). Better than either of the other options if you ask me.
Post # 10
I agree with pp, if you don’t really know them and you’ve already sent out your invitations then I would just move on.
Post # 11
Don’t bother sending them an invite. Either your Future Father-In-Law can ring and tell them what happened (invite them verbally) or you can tell Future Father-In-Law it’s too late to send out invitations now and not worry about it.
Post # 12
Thank you for your advice ladies. One of the people we didnt invite is a cousin. We invited her 2 brothers and missed her. I left this up to my fiance and he sent them an invitation with a handwritten apology like the one I posted above. I dont really care if they come or not but this is his family so I let him decide.
Post # 13
I think the way it was handled was best. I would definitely understand and appreciate the note!