Post # 1
I’m getting married in the fall and family/friends have begun to mention the Bridal Shower…but no one has offered to throw it. I have 3 bridesmaids but not a maid of honor. I feel like it’s rude to throw myself a party – but is that what I need to do if people are expecting a bridal shower? Or should I specifically ask that my 3 bridemaids throw it together?
Post # 3
I didn’t have a Maid/Matron of Honor, but my 4 bridesmaids planned it together. Don’t throw your own, but you could casually mention a shower and see what they say.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
OP, or your mom can host one, if she’s willing.
Post # 5
I’d keep my mouth shut and say, “Aren’t I NOT supposed to know about my bridal shower?”
If someone does decide to throw you one, people will start saying that you need to register.
Post # 6
The shower could be a a joint effort among your bridemaids, or your mom or Future Mother-In-Law could throw one if they would like.
Post # 7
@MollieK: Yes, you are right – you don’t throw your own shower – it will look gift grabby. You also don’t ask someone to throw it for you – that also looks gift grabby.
As what to say to people who are asking, just say, “I haven’t of anyone offering to throw a shower so there may not be one!”
If no one offers it’s not a bad thing.
Post # 8
My mom, Future Mother-In-Law, and cousin threw mine – it was my mom and Future Mother-In-Law who decided to throw one, I just helped with the guest list.
Post # 9
@MollieK: you stll have a lot of time. I wouldn’t worry just yet
Post # 10
A few years ago when I was in my bff’s wedding, all of us bridesmaids got together and threw her a surprise shower – and I think it was only about a month before the wedding. If she was worried about it, she certainly never said anything, and was SHOCKED when she walked in the place. Give your bms the benefit of the doubt tht they know to plan you something.
Post # 11
It’s a bit early for showers for a fall wedding, so I wouldn’t worry about it. I don’t have an Maid/Matron of Honor either (or bridesmaids), but a close friend graciously offered to host one (I’d done the same for her when she got married, also without bridesmaids), and several of my fiance’s female relatives also co-hosted one together. I’m sure one or more ladies will volunteer as the date gets closer. And on the off-chance no one offers, it certainly doesn’t reflect poorly on you since you’re not the one responsible for making it happen, nor are the mothers of the bride and groom.