(Closed) What to do about the step-family…

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think you really need to invite them. It sounds like they have been a very nice part of your life over the last four years. Can you see yourself excluding them ? If not you may want to wait until you can afford to increase the number or scale down the extras in order to invite those close to you! Sorry probably not what you wanted me to say. You don’t say if the wedding is on the east or west coast. If the opposite that will probably cut the numbers right there.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Are you comfortable talking to your stepmom about it? She’ll probably have the best idea of whether her extended family will be offended or hurt if they’re not invited.  She also probably wants to avoid drama at your wedding, so she may understand where you’re coming from.

Post # 6
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989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’d invite them but discuss the situation with your mom’s family ahead of time so everyone knows what to expect. 

Post # 7
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1623 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

How big (total number) are you looking to have your guest list?

If you’re looking at around 50-100, I would say that you should invite your dad & step mom, any of their children/your siblings, and then leave it at that for your “step-mom’s” side. I undertand you may see her extended family at family functions, but if you’re looking to keep your guest list smaller, then I think it’s acceptable to tell your parents that and hope they respect your wishes.

However, if you’re looking at like a 300 or so person wedding, you may want to extend the invite to her other relatives you see.

I think it all depends on how intimate or big you want the wedding to be. That way you have a reason as to why you’re including or only extended the invitations so far.

 

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Both of my parents are remarried.  My dad has been married to my stepmom for eight years and her family welcomed me into their family the first time they met me.  My stepmom has four brothers and sisters, who all have kids, who all have kids.  Her family is HUGE and i love them all.  Unfortunately, I couldn’t invite them all, so I chose to invite her brothers and sister and a few of her nieces who I am close to.  My mom and dad’s family are very small and my stepfamily is actually outnumbering my blood family.  If you want to pick and choose who to invite, I think it’s okay.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My grandparents are all divorced and remarried. I haven’t met most of my step cousins, step aunts ect. So I’m inviting the step grandparents and leaving it at that. It would literally double the guest list if I extended the invitation to all of the step relatives children and grand children. However in your case I would invite them. Adding 15 people doesn’t seem like that many and it seems like you have a relationship with most of them.

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