- 10 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
This is my first time writing a post and I really need some advice on a topic that is very near and dear to my heart involving the three Ls: love, long distance and law school. Plus, you can learn a little about the Goldens!
I have been engaged to Mr. Golden, my best friend, soul mate and the love of my life for about three months. We are both 24 years old and have been together for four years and plan to be married in about two years. We met in college and never really had to deal with true long distance in the beginning of our relationship (except for our first few months together when we were in two separate states for the summer on the phone and internet non-stop getting to know each other better).
In our first two years we lived in neighboring dorm buildings, ate practically every meal together, walked to class, were each other’s favorite study buddies and shared our dreams of advocacy and law and fell in love. It was wonderful…
Then the distance came into our relationship. After Mr. Golden graduated, he moved to Florida to volunteer for a year while I finished my final year of college. And our relationship was better than ever! Sure, we missed each other like crazy, but made a couple trips to visit each other when we could afford it and we talked to each other about two times a day every day for about two to three hours total (What can I say, we looove to talk, especially to each other).
The distance was hard but at the same time so easy. We and everyone around us has always prided us in the strength of our relationship. Not to toot our own horn, haha, but our communication and connection beyond the physical is amazing and it is what I love most about us.
And now here we are to the present: The following year I moved to Florida to also volunteer before law school and be closer to Mr. Golden while he started his first year of law school. We still have the distance of a few hours drive but so much better than being 3000 miles apart. While he is busy with the stress of being a successful 1L, I am receiving wonderful opportunities in terms of law school acceptances and scholarships. We became engaged after the new year and Mr. Golden lovingly prefaced his proposal with the fact that he supports me and our relationship 110% no matter where I attend school as we both believe in the strength of our love no matter the physical distance because we are always connected in our hearts. I just don’t know if we want to do long distance for another three years at this time in our lives…
So now I must decide where to attend law school in six short months. I’ve narrowed it down to three great highly-ranked school options:
1) The Florida law school Mr. Golden attends where I have received a half tuition scholarship although it is only third in prestige ranking. I have of course visited the school, loved it, have family in the area, and know I would be happy here.
2) A wonderful neighboring state law school that is six hours away from my love, in which I have received a full-tuition scholarship and is second in prestige ranking but still long distance
3) A prestigious Ivy-league law school. Although super long distance and not close to anyone I love in the slightest and unbelievably expensive (especially in this economy!), it is a truly an amazing opportunity.
I just want us to be happy and not have any regrets or resentments towards the situation and each other both in the short and long-term. Whoever said getting older wasn’t easy, wasn’t lying! I know that you all ultimately cannot decide for me as this is such a complex decision, but any opinions, advice or similar experiences you can share would be deeply appreciated. Thanks in advance!