Post # 1
Hey bees, I’m looking for ideas!
We are planning our June 2012 wedding outside in a park, in Pennsylvannia. The problems are as follows:
Because Pennsylvania falls under the category of “States with the most ridiculous alcohol laws,” not only can we not have alcohol in the park, it’s very difficult to buy. Sidenote: the woman who will book the park for us says she can “ask for permission” from the park manager so we can bring alcohol, but I have a feeling he’s not going to be able to do diddly squat about it, as he is not the law…he’s a park manager.
Last June, the weather was terrible. Rainy and cold.
If we get a tent the ground will still be muddy. Plus tents are pricey, and we have a lot of guests.
Venues are freakin’ expensive and also 99% of the time extremely lame and not anything I want.
So. The questions. Should we change the wedding date (no STD or Invites have been sent) to even later (Not what I want to do, I’d rather get married tomorrow)? Should we get a tent and risk it all? Should we not get a tent and risk even more? Should spend our life savings on a venue that is subpar to what we really want?
PS. This is under Reception, but the Ceremony would be at the park as well. Couldn’t find a different category to put it in.
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Do you WANT a big wedding with a tent and all that jazz? From the tone of your post, you don’t sound enthusiastic about the whole idea. Why did you choose the park in the first place? What are your (and your FI’s) wedding-related priorities?
Post # 4
I don’t want a fancy wedding. I want a natural, bohemian, fun wedding. Which does not go very well with a tent or a venue. We chose the park because it’s a lovely green environment, with ample room for everyone, and it costs $100.
Post # 5
@leafgum: I don’t know, I don’t see why you couldn’t find a natural fun venue with an indoor option. Although I don’t know your budget. We looked at a nature center that had beautiful windows and a nice large room with wood and neutral paint. They had a lovely outdoor area for ceremonies and a garden for the cocktail hour. You could dress it up to be fancy, but you could as easily serve BBQ and have kegs. The whole thing came in around $2K (the upper end of what we were looking at as far as venue rentals).
You could look at community centers, restaurants, etc. It doesn’t have to be hotels and chandaliers. 🙂
Post # 6
It sounds like you feel the park is sub -par also. This is your wedding and while it is just one day, it is a special day that you create great memories and stories to tell in the future. I think if I were you I would continue to look around and see if you find something you like better at a rate you can deal with. When I started looking I actually found a free wedding chapel right in my town. Be creative – consider museums, old theaters, an old court house. I have a friend who has the really cool stair case in her house she had her daughters wedding there. You’d be suprised how many people want to help with weddings. There is a post I put on here about 5 months ago asking people to show the different places Bees are getting married, there were some wonderfully creative ideas. Dont give up, the perfect place is our there. It sounds to me like this park just isn’t it.
Post # 7
I haven’t been able to find any kind of venue that I like. 🙁 And our budget is.. well, less than $2K, that’s for sure. I wouldn’t mind a barn, but I haven’t found one yet..maybe I just haven’t been searching hard enough!
One place I absolutely ADORE is Terrain at Styers. I’ve requested information but haven’t hear anything back. Anyone know the running price for this place? I think our guest list would have to shrink, though…
Post # 8
I would look into a venue. I know you have a small budget, but a park setting can get wicked expensive really fast too:
Floor rental in case of bad weather
A lot of venues will have this stuff included. How big is your guest list?
Post # 9
@Roe: I second this. We vetoed the gorgeous garden in the park because just the cost of the tent was going to be around $10,000. Than add all the stuff that Roe said and don’t forget the Port-O-Potties.
Check for your local nature conservatories. They have beautiful spaces that are available to rent. But if your heart is set on outdoors and it is rainy in June where you live I would consider an early fall wedding as well. GL!
Post # 10
We’re lucky with this park because it has a large gazebo with tables and benches, we’d be using hay bales for seats during the ceremony, and there are bathrooms nearby as well.
@Roe, the invite list so far is just under 250. However, a ton of them are courtesy invites, and a lot of them are also from Europe, so after going through everyone and marking who will probably come, it drops way down to like 100, if that.
Post # 11
Move it back to when? The summers around here are always iffy weather-wise, but planning everything outdoors is the risk you take. If you have a backup plan that would be better, but mabe check the historical data and see how it ranges. Last year was an odd year everywhere. Considering how hot,sticky and humid our summers usually are, as a guest I’d MUCH prefer cooler,less buggy weather. Maybe go into the Fall instead?
Post # 12
What about looking into a winery that has rooms for weddings? You can then have the wedding outside amongst nature but move instead if it’s super hot, rainy, cold.. whatever.
Post # 13
I can only imagine how stressful that is! I am from Oklahoma where the weather is famously unpredictable as well. I think you should follow your heart and go with the outdoor venue. With all the money you can save you can buy cute umbrellas for the wedding party and extra special guests (grandparents, etc) and ask everyone to bring umbrellas and rain boots just in case! Some of the best wedding photos I have seen have been taken in “inclement” weather. Good luck!
Post # 14
If the park has a gazebo- that is your rain plan. At, leat that is our rain plan.