- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2007
After I got engaged and started thinking about who to choose as bridesmaids I mentioned to a longtime friend that I was considering having her stand but made no promises. After this discussion my Fiance asked that I include his sister so what would have been my friends spot now became that of his sister. I didn’t want to go over a certain number and have sisters myself so I ended up not asking her in the end. She seemed upset about this and I felt horrible so I discussed with my fiance and we decided she would make a great MC. I asked, she accepted the job and all was well again… until recently. She is a very difficult person to reach and doesn’t always have her priorities in check. Being an MC is a little more than just getting up and doing it, there is planning to be done. I have been trying to spend time with her for the last few months to work everything out and she never answers her phone and can’t seem to give up an hour to meet. So I sent her a message telling her we had to meet asap and she called me back to tell me that not only does she not have time to meet with me but she also hasn’t even booked the day of my wedding off?!!! And on top of that she had also asked to bring a friend since her bf can’t make it but due to budget and other considerations I could not invite an acquaintance over family members who we had to leave out. She seemed a little upset by this but said she understood but that now she doesn’t have a ride so what is she supposed to do?! We have friends she knows she can ask! Am I seriously supposed to be worrying about all of this 2 weeks before my wedding?! It’s the same old story – all about her! This is my day, I only get one and I refuse to spend it worrying about if she’s going to make it and how she’s going to get there!
So I sent her a message, telling her that since she can’t make the time or effort to help me out (I said it way more politely) that I think it would be best if I choose someone else to play the part. I’m just so worried that I will lose a friend over this… but then I wonder, how much of a friend is she if all she is worried about is herself? Thoughts anyone? This is really bothering me!